Each mother loves hugging her baby, so she gives him her love, shows a desire to protect, protect from difficulties, regret. Especially when the child does not understand words and is able to recognize only emotions.
In the first days of his life, the baby feels warm and smells like a mother at the time of the mother's embrace, he gets used to and remembers what this means comfort and safety. That's why the crying baby is able to rest assured that his mother took him in his arms.
The philosopher Ashley Montague in his book "Touching" claimed that embraces are able to teach the baby to love ... That a child who was hugged before the age of seven will never be able to have strong feelings.
Embrace, as the development of personality
How often is it necessary to hug a child? The scientists of Ipsychologists have proved that touching, stroking and embracing themselves not only bring joyful emotions, but also contribute to children's development. There is such a medical term - "hospitalism", it is used in relation to children who are forced to stay in the houses of the baby. These children, despite the entire spectra of them, including hardening, and massage (although this, it would seem, too, smoother and touch, but more often emotionally not colored), eventually start to lag behind their peers in development.
As a child grows up, it is less necessary for him to have a parent embrace. He makes friends, his social circle, but he still sometimes wants to feel the warmth of his mother's embrace.
Previously, it was believed that often hugging children harmful to themselves - they said that a child can grow up infantile, overly curious, capricious. Now, children's psychologists say that children, whose parents often caressed and embraced, behave much more balanced, more relaxed and confident in their adult life.
In general, every mother is able to intuitively feel when her child needs such support, as a hug.
"We need 4 hugs a day for survival, 8 for support and 12 for growth." Virginia Satir, an American psychologist.
Of course, the need for embraces in each child is individual. Small children can get tired if they are too often to kiss, hug and squeeze. Listen to the baby, watch him: do not distract him if he is busy or engaged. Needless to say, do not molest the child with embraces during meals: children can choke, distract their fathers. Even a baby has its own "personal zone" and this must be accepted and respected.
After observing the child, you will easily notice that in most cases the children themselves show when they need their mother's (or father's) embraces. The child can just come up and take the parent by the hand, ask for knees or hands, cuddle - it is at such moments that hugs are only needed, but also mandatory. Thus, children get rid of fears and ineptness.
It is worth noting, and the fact that embraces are important and not only necessary for the child, but also for an adult, because the mother also calms down, cuddling her baby, morally rests, gets a psychological discharge, feels its importance.
Embrace your children, love them and respect them!