Unfortunately, this is more often found in fairy tales or melodramas than in real life. So to be aimed at improving your understanding of the nature of love is a very valuable and important property of a woman's character. Consider how to apply it wisely to become a wise woman, and not get caught in the web of stupid ideas and unverified knowledge, delusions and prejudices.
Know yourself
Instead of donning Don Quixote's armor and fighting the windmills all his life, it is useful to sit down and think about life. Dream, porefleksirovat, explore the biography of stars or historical characters. Yes, even read novels to understand the nature of feelings between a man and a woman. It is necessary not just to succumb to the charm of the moment from reading an interesting book or watching a successful film. It is important to stop sometimes and think - and what is seen and heard is suitable for me. As much as I reacted, and what I could do to change this situation in the right direction.
They also help with heart-to-heart talks with friends, and simply with other women. Pay attention to the parents' family, learn the biographies of your parents and their ancestors. Find repetitive stories in relation to men, and try to understand if you want to live according to such a scenario or wish to radically change it.
Transform yourself
After you understand what you want from men and life, it's worth moving to action. Learn to relax relaxedly accept what you like and you are comfortable with, and learn to fight with shortcomings.
There are many useful books on psychology, philosophy, sociology, which contain very specific tips and exercises that make it not easy to understand how to become a wise woman in dealing with men, but also to realize it in practice. They are suitable for relatively light tasks, for example, to combat laziness or other bad habits.
More serious psychological problems in dealing with men are better solved with specialists. Now there are many wonderful trainings and individual consultations on issues of love, family and marriage. For the most part, they are not just affordable, but also help to entertain, find new friends and get-togethers by interests.
Know a man
Knowing your strengths and weaknesses, realizing secret desires and overcoming shortcomings, is only part of the success in dealing with men. If you are seriously interested in questions about how to be a wise woman in relation to men, you should learn the basics of male psychology. A lot of problems in relationships arise only because a woman judges a man by herself. Especially it concerns ladies who grew up in an incomplete family, in which there was no father or even brothers. Men are not worse and no better than women, they are just different. They see the world differently, think differently, not at all as we want, express their love. The ability to see and understand the true motives of a man's behavior allows him to build a more harmonious relationship with him. In addition, just as in the situation with training, studying the psychology of men is not only useful, but also an exciting activity. First, there are humorous written books on the psychology of the difference between men and women (it is also called gender psychology). Secondly, there are special trainings in which men and women learn to understand each other and establish communication. Like any training, they contain not only cognitive, but also entertainment component.
Avoid transforming a man
It is not wise for a wise woman to overestimate her role in relationships, and even more so in the life of a man. Love is stronger than any rules, and usually it transforms both the man and the woman, and, as a rule, for the better. But criticism and any attempts to re-educate a man, can upset any, even the most robust relationship. This does not mean that it is worth "praying" for a man, and working only on yourself. In any matter, there is a golden mean. So try to accept a man as he is, with all the advantages and disadvantages. If he is not an idiot, he will appreciate this attitude to himself, and he will strive to become your best friend and best lover in the whole world. And if you still have some difficulties or conflicts, try to be frank and talk with a man not so much about how he is to blame for the problem, how much about what you feel about the problem, and what are the ways out of the situation you see. Men are most loyal to specific claims and do not tolerate hints and notations. Knowing this simple truth, you can overcome almost any difficulties in dealing with your loved one.