You can behave on the forum in different ways, it depends, to a greater extent, on what kind of virtual image you chose for yourself. Perhaps in life you are a little lacking in courage and spectacle, so on the Internet you decided to become a fateful lady - by the way, these are usually discussed in the forum. Or you are tired of being an iron lady, so you chose an image softer and delicate, vulnerable ... And maybe you just decided to be yourself, share all your secrets, joke, sometimes - to be silly, in general, not to be an ideal lady.
But the forum is a forum, with all the warmth and friendly atmosphere that he generously gives, yet there can not be conflicts either. And all because we are all different, and we perceive everything in different ways, and from that arise quarrels and squabbles, even on the basis of one abandoned phrase. It can not be said that discussing you on the forum is a matter necessarily connected with denigration and condemnation. Maybe you just gave your virtual acquaintances too many reasons for reasoning - and they immediately took advantage of them, dug up your life and began to examine it under a microscope? Whatever was the reason for the discussion, the question remains open: how to behave, if you are discussed at the forum by a group of people who have always supported you and encouraged you, but today they suddenly decided that you are not the person you want for yourself issue?
Answering the question about how to behave, if you are discussing with relish and not hiding, you should immediately think about your personal behavior on the forum. After all, any discussion of a particular person has a motive, an occasion, an object of conversation, in the end.
To begin with - outline the circle of familiar virtual "girlfriends" who have arranged for you a breakdown. Remember: what kind of relationship have you got at the forum? Perhaps in some burning topic you quarreled, and in the end between you chilled a cool? Of course, the essence of the forums is that discussions of any subject are divided into two camps: "for" and "against" (if possible within the framework of discussion, of course). The only question is: how do these camps get out of the situation? Most likely, you could not peacefully come to a consensus, and the quarrels were transferred from one topic to all communication. Began podkoly, reproaches, laughter - all this has no way to normal productive communication. It is not excluded that you just want to survive from the forum - then get ready to defend the defense line. Women know how to fight, even virtually.
But if the situation with an improperly resolved conflict is common and depends not only on you but also on your opponents, there are other options, because of which you can be discussed from the negative side. Perhaps, you have become aware of the fame of an arrogant woman? After all, we often want to seem better, more intelligent, smarter, more stylish, especially if we are rotating in a female team - albeit virtual. In particular, sometimes we exaggerate our high social status, which can be envied. And, be sure, you will necessarily envy, moreover, there are those people who do not like you for kitsch. And these girls are able to discuss you in front of everyone to prove that you put yourself above others. And on the forums do not like it - at the forums all are equal (more precisely, they should be equal, although this happens rarely).
Of course, you can discuss and from a good point of view - and this, on the one hand, is wonderful! Although this situation can cause a woman discomfort. After all, perhaps you are praised with might and main for some talents that you demonstrated to the members of the forum, and which they themselves do not possess. You tied a smart sweater to your husband, better than a store, cooked a delicious goose in apples, learned to handle children's moods, you know everything about the technique ... there can be many reasons! And those who are aware of them, can easily share this information with others, without even thinking about the fact that such an advertising campaign may be unpleasant to you.
To behave in all these cases is necessary in different ways.
If the discussion is evil, then you need to find out its cause. Get personalized with those who harass you the most, and ask them a direct question "on the forehead": "For what? ". Wait for an intelligible answer, and if you understand that you were somewhere wrong, maybe you should apologize for all this to stop? In the event that the flow of dirt continues to flow on you (especially through personal messages) - you can write about this to the moderator, and he will be obliged to take measures to curb this rudeness. The offenders need to fight their means.
Although, perhaps, the forum itself is not worth it to fight for it? Maybe it's better to leave with proud head, and find yourself a more cozy virtual world?
If the reason lies in you, and you know it - try to correct the line of behavior a little. After all, on the Internet it's easy! This is not a real life where there is no return to the said words and there is no time to think about some answers. On the forum, you have an unlimited amount of time in order to filter out your answer, remove the negative from it, pick up a benevolent smile. After all, even in a dispute with an opponent you need to be able to behave yourself beautifully and with dignity.
Well, then, when you are discussed for your dignity, maybe you just need to make yourself sad? After all, your skills and talents appreciated a huge number of people absolutely unfamiliar to you - and only this awareness of it should give you confidence in your abilities! But if it is still not very pleasant for you - maybe it makes sense to correctly write to your "advertising agents" that you are not used to being in the spotlight? Normal adequate people will certainly listen to your words and stop advertising you at every turn.