Relations with parents do not always develop as we would like. And worst of all, if the mother or father is a quick-tempered person. In the case when people immediately begin to shout and swear, to prove their point of view becomes even more difficult. But if my mother's prohibitions can still be ignored somehow, her father does not pass such a number. That is why it is necessary to know how to establish relations with a quick-tempered father.
In order to understand how to establish relations with hot-tempered fathers, it is necessary to understand their psychology and be able to behave correctly. Spitfires are often people who are used to being authoritarian and managing everything and everything. With any disobedience, they immediately lose their temper, begin to shout and swear.
Know how to argue
If this is what is happening to your father, you need to learn how not to respond to crying with a response increase in voice. In order to establish relations, in no case enter into a confrontation. When the father starts screaming and cursing, just keep quiet. Let him release steam and express everything he wants, sooner or later he will calm down. After that, remember everything he said and build the conversation in the following way. Tell him that he is absolutely right, however ... and after that you need to present your arguments. Just remember that with a quick-tempered person you need to speak laconically and in fact. Do not "spread the thought of the tree." Such a type of people is quickly annoyed when they see that a person can not get to the point. Therefore, starting a conversation with your father on this or that question, have enough arguments in your reserve to defend your point of view and not let him go to scream.
You can not help shouting business.
Always remember that it is impossible to establish relations with such a person if you respond with screams to cries. In this case, you begin a kind of struggle in which the father, as an authoritarian person, simply can not afford to lose. As a result, you will scream and swear, and the purpose of all this will not be to resolve the dispute, but to win in this already senseless fight.
If your father is a quick-tempered person, you still should not consider him your enemy. Remember that he cries not because he wishes you evil, but because of his sincere confidence that he is doing his child better. Therefore, if you are not able to convince your father of arguments or you simply do not know how to express yourself laconically, try to act through his feelings. When he starts shouting, instead of answering in the same way, hug your dad, say that you love him.
Firstly, this behavior is unexpected during quarrels and disputes, so it dislodges a person from the usual rut and gives more opportunities to convince. In addition, the realization that a child loves you, makes you relax even the most quick-tempered people.
Saving silence
However, do not forget about such situations, when a quick-tempered father really does not want to hear any arguments and believes that there are only two opinions: his and the wrong. Such people organize a totalitarian regime at home and are keen to ensure that everyone lives according to the charter they have drawn up. It is better not to argue with such a father at all. If you understand that you can not convince him, in order not to spoil relations there is only one thing - to remain silent. In this case, it is necessary to say what the father wants to hear, and then act in his own way. Of course, one can not call such a model of behavior correct or moral, but in some families, children simply do not have a choice. The main thing is to try not to lie, but to keep silent. That is, while you are not asked about anything, you do not need to invent stories and play before your father an ideal daughter. The best thing is simply not to focus on things that can cause irritation in the pope. In this case, your relationship will improve and you will stop constantly swearing. And in order for your mutual understanding with your father to improve, try to be more interested in his life and worries. Seeing that he is really valuable and loved, Dad, in the end, can soften and stop cussing about anything.