Women love with their ears - and this is a universally recognized fact. That's why we should not be silent with us. We constantly want to keep up the conversation, listen to compliments and so on. That's just not all men can give us this. How can we communicate with a silent young man? How to learn how to react to his silence correctly?
Many women make a lot of mistakes only because they do not understand the reasons for the boy's silence. It seems to them that the young man dislikes them, hides something and so on. But in fact, everything is completely different. Now we'll talk about why some guys are silent.
All problems are solved alone
All men do not particularly like to talk about their problems and experiences. But if most of them can pull something out, then some guys think that their problems should not concern anyone, so they try not to show it to the mind. Usually, for them it's really hard to determine if something happened. But often at such moments young people become even more silent than usual. If you see that the guy is silent, do not need to ask him questions, and even more so, put pressure on him. Many women begin to come up with their own versions, develop events and, as a result, pretend to make claims and throw accusations in far-fetched things. So to act is not, because you are hurting the one you love. He is silent not to offend you, but you start hysterics knowing that you can insult him. Many dames try to get the guys to tell everything. Unfortunately, this is completely unrealistic. This type of men will never put their problems on the shoulders of others, especially if these are the fragile shoulders of a beloved girl. That's why instead of that to blame him for all sins, it's better just to cook your favorite dish or go with him somewhere where he likes. Thus, you perfectly support a young man, he will calm down and forget about his problems much more quickly.
"Vealiness"
Another feature of the character of silent men, which terribly annoys women - is dislike for the so-called "veal tenderness." Suchparents do not like to be told different tenderness, but they can say "I love you" only on special holidays. Of course, dear ladies do not have enough, and they again organize scandals and start throwing accusations of brutality and even cruelty. Dear women, you can not do this in any way. He loves you, and very much. If he did not love, he would have left already after the first such scandal. He just does not know how and does not want to talk about love. It's easier for such guys to save a princess from a dragon than to write for an inexplicable one. And yet, the guys sincerely do not understand why constantly talk about love. If he once said that he loves, it means forever. In case, when he ceases to love, he will immediately notify you about it. If the guy does not say that the feelings have passed, then for him it becomes a big mystery why the ladies so hysterically react to the silence and lack of compliments. After all, silent men sometimes tell them, but only when your appearance really hooked them. And so, why rush words, when you can just look at a woman, and everything becomes clear. But only the representatives of the fair sex do not always notice the views and correctly assess the actions that the boys are doing for those they love. If a young man went and changed the technique in the house, because you were uncomfortable or found something and gave something that you dreamed of as a child, but could not afford it - this is a manifestation of great love. And even if he did not really respond to your gratitude, he simply got hold of the gift in his hands, by the way, remember that these gestures speak of his great and true love. So instead of making hysterics and blaming the young man for all the estimated sins, say thank you to him and do something nice to him. Your action is always more important than many words.
How to talk to someone who is silent
Silent men for this and silent, so that in all conversations to speak the minimum number of phrases or words. For women, it's just unacceptable. Im immediately begins to seem that the guy does not listen to them, that he is not interested. They again start scandalating and throwing accusations in almost all sins. Although in fact the guys did not even think to ignore them. The fact is that those who like to be silent, in fact, are excellent listeners. Unlike guys who talk a lot, they do not just listen to the text to be able to say their word. These men really listen and hear women. If they ask a month later what the conversation was about, then such a man will almost always be able to get the right answer. What can not you say about the talkative representatives of the strong field. Therefore, if your man is silent, it does not mean that he "flies in the clouds." He listens very attentively to you, he simply has nothing to say or he does not consider it necessary to insert his comments at the moment. When the umpire will have some thoughts about what he has heard, he will tell you what he thinks, advise and so on. But be prepared for the fact that his comments and advice will also be very brief, albeit capacious. Many women love to "pobsasyvat" every detail for a hundred times, come up with and retell the thousand of events. As you know, a silent man just will not do it. He simply does not see the sense of foreseeing events or discussing people. These guys say in fact and never like to discuss gossip. Even if he listens to your stories about the personal life of this or that person, do not expect that the young man will ardently begin to comment on this. Often, such people do not like to talk about either the stranger or their life.
Talking about personal
By the way, the last thing to remember is the talks about the personal. Of the silent men it is very difficult to draw out some details of their personal life. These guys believe that everything that happened to them, they should stay. Of course, sometimes they open the secret veil to the nearest. But that they did not speak, it's only a small percentage. And, in this way, guys do not try to put themselves on secrecy and tie your interest to yourself. On the contrary, they generally do not like to use any methods of binding a person. It's just that they really sincerely believe that everything that happened in life is the past. And this is their personal, both good and bad. So why tell someone about what happened ten years ago. Moreover, this does not affect the situation at the moment. So, if your guy does not tell you about all his love triumphs and losses, about how many he had women and kakietragedii with him, it does not mean that he is secretive or, God forbid, you do not trust. Simply everyone has the right to personal, but for silent muzhchin this right can not be taken away. So do not try anything from him and do not try to reveal secrets yourself. Perhaps he himself will tell you something when he finds that you really need to know this. But even if he does not tell you his secrets, be unhappy, because his past does not affect your feelings to you.