Undo
Stubborn people never take pressure. The more you press them, the more they fight back. That is, for example, you know what the person is doing wrong and start constantly telling him about it, convincing him that he is wrong and pointing out his mistakes. If for an ordinary person a tacoslov can become a revelation and he will understand his mistakes and start to correct them, then with a stubborn person everything will be different. The more you persuade him that he is wrong, the more such a person will try to prove his rightness. Of course, most likely, it will not work for him, but he will continue to behave like he did and from the principle. Remember that stubborn people are often very proud. When they are pressured, it seems to them that people in this way indicate their weakness, lack of proximity, inability to do something right. The stubborn is very annoying and irritating. He can not reconcile with such a course of events and decides that the best way is to break the firewood, but not give up. So if you see that your close stubborn starts to do some stupid things, instead of resorting to him, flaming with righteous anger and starting to read, it's best to just ask why he does it. After the obstinate responds to your question, ask if he thought about other options for solving the problem. Discuss these options. If the master has no thoughts about resolving the situation in another way, you can remember and give a couple of examples of how other people acted in similar situations. Only do not say in a conversation phrases such as: "And let's do a thousand how you did it ...", "You better do what you did ...", "In this situation, the right choice will be made as ...". Such phrases sound like an order, as an encroachment on personal opinion and personal choice. And for a stubborn person it is worse than everything, when someone tells him what to do, thereby depriving him of the right to choose independently. So just tell how an example of such a situation, describe the method of solution and shut up. A person should think for himself the words you say. That is, if he decides to use this example, he should have a feeling that he himself came to such a conclusion, but did not become a victim of your opinion. Stubborn people do not want to impose someone else's opinion. In fact, it is against someone else's opinion that they are obstinate. Such a person always lacks personal space and the opportunity to express his thoughts. At anyinteraction in his world with instructions and advice, he begins to violently defy. This is what is the main reason for such stubborn behavior. If you give him the opportunity to make a decision on his own, even if based on your arguments, then most likely he will stop being obstinate and do the right thing. Many people think that stubborn people are stupid people who do not understand anything. In fact, this is not true. Often stubborn people are smart enough and are all well aware. And behave silly just because they want to prove to everyone: I do not need someone else's instructions, I'll make decisions myself, even if they are wrong, but my own. That's why stubborn people often themselves realize what stupidities are being guided by their stubborn character, but still they are not going to change anything, purely from principle.
Do not try to change it
Many begin to try to influence the stubborn by any means to change it. This can be blackmail feelings, resentment, tears, threats and takdalee. Such behavior never leads to a positive result when it comes to a stubborn person. Remember that stubbornness is a character trait that develops from a deep childhood. They do not become stubborn, they are born like this. A stubborn character manifests itself practically from infancy and from the same age, such a person is trying to be overconfident. But instead of getting a positive result, parents, and then other close people do only worse. In fact, they fall into a circle: a person is trying to be over-strained, and he is out of stubbornness worse than just to prove his point of view. Therefore, if among your close people there is a stubborn, try to accept it as it is. In the end, stubbornness is far from the most terrible character trait. Therefore, it is quite possible to reconcile sleep and learn to co-exist with a stubborn, no-brainer scandals and disturbances. In order to establish contact with a stubborn, you must show him that you accept his behavior and point of view, support and give the right to decide everything yourself. Often you say to a stubborn: "You are an intelligent adult, so you can make the right decision on your own." A stubborn person becomes in those cases when he feels that he is not allowed to do what he wants. Accordingly, he immediately begins to resist and counteract. But if he understands that there is no need to defend himself, he begins to think about the situation, not relying on his desire to do as he wants at any price, but on rationalism, facts and so on. That is, if you begin to persuade a stubborn person, then he will do it to spite. If you just zaronit in his soul zernasomneny in the correctness of the chosen version of the solution of the situation, then it is quite possible to think and act differently. The main thing is that you tell him the right things unobtrusively, briefly. It may sound like, incidentally, or like the words you wanted to say for a long time, but did not dare, but now you decided, but do not think that he is obliged to listen, it's just necessary to tell the truth. For example: "Mene seems that this person is bad. I have long wanted to tell you about this, but I did not dare. You forgive me for saying it, I'm just very worried. I will not remind you of this again. "Such a form of the statement does not cause the desire to act unjustly, because it is not ordered and instructed by him, but at the same time these words can pause to reflect, analyze the situation again, look at the sissies of the party and understand, that it is necessary to act in a different way, rather than as originally hoped.
In fact, it's not so difficult with stubborn people. Just need to learn to restrain their emotions and not try to constantly change the person and his point of view. The more you struggle with the stubborn, the more he will fight you. And if you stop doing this, you will see how a stubborn person himself began to listen to your opinion and will start to act right.