After all, usually most of us first grow up in a family created by parents, then create their own, and soon it can become part of the families of their children. A lot is written about how to properly build family relationships and establish an emotional climate. It is a pity that these studies of experienced psychologists are rarely implemented, in most cases they are generalized. Of course, the same professional psychologists can help to establish life and create an atmosphere of mutual understanding, but only in their classes and trainings, after they get to know you, and understand what you need in the first place. But, unfortunately, our people are not used to psychological practice, and often consider applying for help to a specialist equal to a mental illness. Probably, that is why psychologists are often called "brainstorms".
But sometimes it's easy to put thoughts in order, and to channel them into the necessary channel is not enough, because the problem of the family is much deeper than it seemed at first glance. Especially often problems arise when the spouses begin to distribute responsibilities, as well as to establish the place of the man and the place of the woman in the family.
Stereotypes.
Our whole life is one big stereotype, on which we are based in the process of making decisions on the performance of acts and misdemeanors, and in general the stereotyping of thinking is characteristic of most people of the world. Well, it so happened for centuries that we simply have to rely on the opinions of others, taking into account their wishes and opportunities. And there's nothing you can do about it, the fact that we live in a society plays a big role. After all, there are people who simply do not care about public opinion, they create their own laws and regulations and live by them. But usually they are perceived by the public as outcasts. You just can not be at the same time with the crowd and against the crowd. That's forced to choose.
Stereotype of thinking is especially expressed in family relationships, or rather their construction. The procedure for managing everyday life, determining the rights and duties of spouses, the place of a woman in the family changes at a very low rate, which sometimes, can not but grieve.
Especially it concerns the division of responsibilities between spouses. Thus, usually you can see the following: a woman - life, a man - a livelihood for this life. Although if you evaluate the homework its monotony is the lack of communication and sometimes not a little laborious, then this distribution is different and you want to call it unequal. At the same time, if the place of women in the family is limited only to duties, the husband's courting is not enough, a modern woman will agree to such an option.
Usually women tend to put themselves in the place of the attendants in the house. After all, so did her mother, grandmother, perhaps other relatives. In childhood we perceived this as a proper manifestation of care and love from my mother, but with age we understood that it could be completely different.
The woman is an actress.
The role of women in the family, has many variations, which she successfully performs. Realistic performance of some life scenes would envy even the most talented actresses. But usually everything that a woman does, she does with a soul and with a pure heart. Without any expectation of any benefit for themselves, of course, if it concerns only her family.
Therefore, if you summarize all female family manipulations, you can group them into specific roles. So for example, initially a woman acts as a wife, loving affectionate and caring. Also assuming the obligations of the intended roles of the hostess in the house. To conduct life, take care that everything in the house was all necessary, take into account all the needs and distribute the family budget as it turns out, just belongs to the woman. Do not forget about the needs of her husband in love and affection, so that at night a woman should become an ardent mistress.
Over time, she begins to combine the role of the wife with the role of the mother. Although cares and problems are doubled, usually such trouble to a woman is only a joy. With the advent of the child and the introduction of the woman in the role of the mother, she, besides remaining a wife, mistress, and mistress, also tries on the role of educator. After all, although the children are brought up by both parents, the mother is always somehow closer to the child, and the pope becomes the object of unquestioning obedience. But only to bring up children is not enough, they must also be taught, develop in them the desire for knowledge. Usually from the first years of our life, the child is sure that my mother knows everything. Therefore, we can safely say that a woman also plays the role of a teacher. And further fulfilling all the previous obligations, the woman also turns out to be an adviser, a home psychologist, a doctor, a tutor, and later a grandmother.
If you look at all this from the outside, it seems that such a combination is impossible. But in fact, looking at an ordinary woman, we understand that a miracle still exists.
A woman should know her place.
Despite its multifunctionality in family life, women do not rarely remain undervalued. And a man will consider himself a being above and beyond a woman. Hence the definition that a man is always right, that the wife should not interfere when the men say, and that the place of the woman in the kitchen. Although if you think what men would do without women?
So where is the woman really? If you follow religious parables, the place of a woman is not in front of a man - that she would not take all the difficulties on herself, not behind the man - that would not be humiliated, the woman's place next to the man, from his heart - that would always feel the protection of his strong hand , and love that comes from the heart. And with these words it is difficult to disagree.
Therefore, dear women take your rightful place next to your beloved husband, and do not give yourself offense. After all, who, if not you, deserves only the best?