Children's tantrums are a very unpleasant phenomenon, they face most parents, especially when the child turns 1 year old. Children's tantrums are inevitable as a certain stage in the development of the child. With his hysterics and whims, the child tries to achieve the desired goals or express anger and anger over taboos or restrictions. Therefore, parents should know how to deal with childhood hysterics in one-year-old children.
The concept of "hysterics" and the concept of "whim" must be distinguished. The behavior of the child in these two cases is accompanied by cries, tears, falling to the floor. Whims are thus thought-out, the kid acts deliberately to achieve what he wants. Usually, whims are characteristic of children up to the age of two. Hysteria also occurs spontaneously, the child loses control over his emotions, and his frustration and anger are expressed in hysterical attacks.
Parents need to consider that the child's psyche is weak, in times of hysterics the baby can not control his feelings and emotions. Definitely - the child does not play, his despair and crying are sincere. He is emotionally tense and needs your support, even if his deed is not justified by external reasons.
How to act to parents if the hysterics of one-year-old children become systematic? The most important point: if a child has rolled up a tantrum, do not do what the kid wants to do. If at least once mom allows the child in response to a hysterics take a vase, which can not be taken, it will fix the child's behavior and hysterics will repeat more than once. To indulge the child at the moment of hysteria is to teach the child to "hysterize" to achieve their goals, that is, to be capricious. The child will very soon become a hysterical favorite way of achieving goals.
Talking during hysteria with the child is not worth it. No need to persuade, scold, shout - this is not only inconclusive, but it can also stimulate the continuation of hysterical behavior. Leaving a child alone is also not worth it. Loneliness is aggravated by despair. You have to be there, keeping calm, waiting for the child's emotional outburst. When you realize that the heat of passion is dropping, you need to take the child to the pens, feel sorry and reassure. Often children themselves are not able to complete the last stage of hysteria, they can not stop tears, so they need the help of an adult. Do not deny the child a weasel, even if he is wrong.
It is strictly forbidden to shout at the baby during his hysterics, the more you can not spank him. Such measures only aggravate the state of the child. Scream and flip flops - this is also a kind of attention to the child, namely the child's attention and is getting from you. Try to stay calm, ignore the hysterics as much as possible. At the same time, you are in the same room as your child, doing your own business. Soon the child will understand that his hysterical behavior does not bring the desired fruits, and therefore to nothing and spend his energy on him.
Observation is a good quality, which helps the parent to recognize the harbingers of hysterics in childlike behavior. Perhaps it will be pursed lips or an increasing sniff. As soon as you catch the movement of the beginning storm - try to immediately switch the attention of the kid to something entertaining. Distract his attention to the toy, to what's happening behind the window. Keep in mind that this method is effective only at the very beginning of hysteria. When the child is in the midst of a hysterical fit, it is useless to try to switch the attention of the baby. Unsuccessful attempts to pacify the child will lead an adult out of balance.
Remember, fatigue and fatigue contribute to the appearance of hysteria in the child. In time, put the child to sleep on night and daytime sleep. Avoid overwork. Do not abuse mobile games, with the child's fatigue read a book, paint. The child himself does not know how to stop running and jumping on time. Watching the fatigue of a child is the task of adults.
Thus, the calm attitude of parents towards child hysteria, not bringing the situation to a critical moment, not indulging in a hysterical fit will allow fighting child hysterics more effectively.