All people have a certain life experience and many try to share it with others, even when others do not want to receive advice. Each of us once pointed out how they should do it, despite the fact that the opinion of those around us at that time did not interest us at all, therefore, we perceived such advice with irritation. How can we disaccustom people to advise us when we do not want to?
Less about yourself
When we tell people about some of their problems, it seems that we want to get advice. Of course, in many cases, in fact, a person wants to just pour out his soul to make it easier, but others do not understand it at all. Therefore, if you want to be advised less, do not give reasons for this. In this case, you always need to be equal to silent people. They least suffer from the secrecy of their secrets and the imposition of the opinions of others around them, since the people of the common man do not know. So, the next time before you share with someone else's emotions and experiences, think carefully about what you will get in the future. And if you know that the person you want to tell something to, likes to climb with your advice, better keep silent. Because in the end, instead of calming down and feeling at least a minimum of mental equilibrium, you will become even more angry and will not only experience an out of the situation situation, but also because someone has got into your personal life and started trying to rebuild it in his own way. Remember that some people are confident in their rightness and in the need to express an opinion on any occasion. So, if you do not want to listen to advice - do not create situations that you are given.
Do not cover your displeasure
Many people suffer from the fact that they are constantly advised, because people around simply do not know how annoying this person is. Often we remain silent, so as not to offend others who seem to come to us with advice, guided solely by good intentions. Vitoga, without saying anything, we gradually accumulate a negative attitude towards such a person and once the cup of patience is overfilled and a scandal occurs, and the adviser is very offended, since Dazhen understands that this happened. Therefore, if you do not want to quarrel with a person and you do not need him to give advice, immediately tell him about it. Of course, your friend may get a bit offended, but believe me, this will be a better way out of the situation than the negativity that has been poured onto him accumulated for months or years. Always try to adequately and intelligibly explain to people what exactly does not suit you. In no case should you turn to screams and blame people for anything. Remember that in most cases, they actually behave in this way exclusively on the kindness of the soul. So, your task is not to offend someone, but to convey to him your point of viewrelative to this situation. It is only desirable that you express your opinion immediately, but do not listen to the advice for six months and only then decided to say something. Just a person can not understand what happened, because you always listened to him, but then suddenly reacted so negatively. If you keep quiet for a while and then talk, people may not take it seriously and decide that you just have some kind of nervous breakdown, so you decided to "tear yourself away" to someone, but in fact you need these tips even more than it seemed from the beginning. Therefore, never be afraid to express your discontent immediately. In this ungodly terrible, terrible insulting. A person who really wishes you well, can always understand your point of view. But if someone flatly refuses to listen, what you say and constantly tries to impose your opinion, then it will be worth considering what your adviser is guided by. Perhaps it's not a matter of wanting to help you, but of wanting to manipulate you and trying to never let you out of your control. It is better not to communicate with older people at all, and in no case should you tell us how to master the problems, because they can easily turn everything against you.
Unrehear
In order for a person to stop getting you by the Soviets, you can simply stop responding to him. But to do it better after you explained to him that you do not want to listen to a certain opinion on this matter, but he still did not hear you. In this case, try to just stop noticing such a person. After all, when we argue, explain something, and so on, although we do not want to do this, a pseudocontact is established between us and the interlocutor. That is, a person begins to feel that you want to communicate with him on a given topic, but hide it. Thus, the counselor enters our psychological comfort zone and begins to destroy it, without even noticing it. But if to any remark and phrase you will respond by silence, then sooner or later the interlocutor will have to admit the fact that you do not want to discuss this topic. Therefore, if someone starts to advise you, when you do not want it, ignore it defiantly. You can do anything, anything: start reading a book, turn on the computer music, go to make tea. In the end, you will be told: "Yes, you do not listen to me at all." And at that moment, you can calmly answer: "All right, I do not listen, because to me your opinion on this issue is completely uninteresting." Yes, that sounds enough rude and can offend a person. But on the other hand, the adviser himself offends you when he makes you listen to unnecessary information. He wants not only that you listen, but also that you do it the way he advises. Therefore, if you understand that such advice can lead to a quarrel, it is better to immediately make it clear that you are uncomfortable, uninteresting, you will not listen to what is being said to you, rather than wait until the moment when nerves are turned over and you tell the person of what did not think and did not intend to talk.
In fact, almost every one of us is a soviet at one time or another. There are very few people who are not that do not climb with advice, but do not always give them when others ask. In most cases, people try to help others without even noticing that this assistance is unnecessary. So do not be afraid to tell the advisers what you think. But if at some point you yourself find yourself an adviser and hear something like this in your own way, take offense and correctly perceive the words of your loved ones. After all, even if we are confident that our council is worthwhile, we need to allow the option in which the person wants to make his mistakes in order to make his experience out of them, therefore, our advice is not needed in this situation.