After conducting a series of interviews, Smiler collected interesting statistics: men who are indiscriminate in sexual relations are so many, while their "feats" on the love front, most often, this is an average of three sexual partners for the year. According to the majority of the respondents, they would like to establish relations with only one woman, and it is paradoxical, but this desire pushes them to look for that "single", forcing to change partners.
Evolution is more than polygamous
The logical explanation of the idea of polygamous men in terms of evolution is quite convincing: the power of instincts forces all the representatives of the stronger sex, without exception, to spread their seed, pursuing the goal of leaving behind numerous offspring. However, the American scientist is convinced that evolution has made its corrections, and now men understand that effective control over genes requires control over descendants. And it's easier to do this when your offspring are near. This explains the desire of modern men to live with their families or, at the extreme, not to interrupt contact with their children, which is possible only if the relationship with the mother of the child is maintained further.
Love is evil ...
Thanks to scientific research, another curious pattern was explained - the desire to fall in love with people, knowing for sure that they will cause our suffering. For example, a man is crazy about a woman who does not make a penny, constantly humiliates and ridicules; a woman can not abandon a lover of hot drinks or a hardened womanizer .... According to the professor of clinical psychiatry Richard Friedman, all these people are motivated not by a subconscious desire to be a victim, but by the "reward" they receive from their partner. That is, if harmonious relations develop according to a predictable scenario, then a link with a bastard or a soup makes it possible to receive unexpected "prizes" in the form of manifestation of the timidity, kind words in their address, sex, and so on. For the brain, this "gingerbread" has a huge attractive force, it causes excitement, akin to that which gamers can not resist. Passionate player pulls in the casino desire to get another portion of adrenaline thanks to the win or loss, and the partner of the unbalanced person again again pushes in the previous relationship the hope to experience the drive from receiving the unexpected "prize."
The validity of these statements is proved by the earlier research of psychiatrist Gregory Burns. Participants in the experiment were offered to drink juice or water. At first they were given drinks without any time binding, then they received them every 10 seconds. At that the tomograph, who constantly watched the subjects' brain, noted the bursts of greater cerebral activity, at the moments when they were given socially, when they did not hope for "gift".
According to Richard Friedman, participants in "wrong" relationships are hostages of dopamine, or, in other words, "hormone pleasure", which is developed by the brain in response to manifestations of love. Ie, if people who are accustomed to constant mockery of a person suddenly hear a declaration of love or have an unexpectedly tender attitude towards themselves, then their brain "throws out" a colossal dose of this hormone of happiness.
And it is the desire to experience at least once such feelings and get the long-awaited "gift" that makes them leave everything as is, and continue to tolerate an inappropriate attitude towards themselves. And as it is unfortunate, according to the expert's statement, even realizing all the incorrectness of the situation and realizing that this should not be so, it's very difficult for them to change something, since it is almost impossible to control the brain when launching the mechanism for receiving the reward ....