Life is like a zebra, divided into black and white. When there are joyful moments in our life, naturally, we are happy. But, when something terrible or sad happens - it happens that getting rid of an unpleasant sludge is almost impossible. Insult in the soul spoils life and relationships with people.
Your young man has changed you, your closest friend or one of your relatives has betrayed you. How do you react? You are angry, insult suffocates you with tears. After a time when all the tears are dry, emptiness and despair will come. You stop trusting the offender, hurt self-esteem will provoke more and more negative emotions. Very often aggression extends not only to the one who offended you, but also to everyone around you, which leads to even more oppression and bad mood, which can sometimes be difficult to correct, especially independently.
The most sensitive nature can offend and cherish its offense in the soul all his life. Over time, the offended person will start to enjoy each time to remember and stir up events that have hurt him. This is extremely wrong, so you have to try to think with all your strength only positively. This development of the situation does not safely affect the psychological state of a person.
How to forget and forgive the past? How to cleanse the soul of negative thoughts and start smiling again?
I'm sure that it's unlikely that a person will offend anyone. But, why are we offended? It all depends on our attitude to the situation. If you are used to the "bad" see "only the bad", then naturally you will take offense at any little thing.
A great achievement for a person is to notice something good and positive in a negative situation.
What does it mean to forget and forgive the past? Forgive - it means how to treat the incident as easily as possible. If you have forgiven, then you accepted what happened. But, this is not an excuse to spoil the further relationship with the offender. Of course, if you forgive, you will hardly forget the offense, but, each time you will not return your thoughts to that situation.
Insults can be different; It happens that forgiving a person for something seems simply unreal. But, on the other hand, if you do not give forgiveness - you will lose when a close friend, who, perhaps, has committed an offensive act of stupidity and not wanting it. To forgive and forget is an excellent way to save yourself and your life from negative factors that can gnaw your mind to infinity.
There is a wonderful way to help yourself come to forgiveness: throw out all your thoughts, and resentment on a simple piece of paper. This method very well helps to forget and forgive the past. Do not be shy in expressions, this is your letter and there can not be prohibitions for you. Once finished, do not reread it, just tear it into small pieces or burn it. Believe me, this is a simple action, will remove the stone from the soul and, you will feel relief.
The past for that is called "the past" - with what was, it is necessary to say goodbye. Especially when it comes to grievances.
You will understand that when you forgive a person, flowers seem to blossom in your soul and you want to fly. The ability to forgive makes a person more light, happy.
In the holy book itself it is written that we learn to forgive our offenders. Dark with offense, the soul will not bring happiness to man, but will only destroy all that is beautiful, What is in it.
Very often, it happens that, recalling a case and an act that caused you unbearable pain, in time - it will seem to you an absurd and amusing accident. After all, resentment is a splash of emotion, a testament to your inadequate state due to the raging passions.