Where do the complexes come from?
Everything is very simple and at the same time difficult. Infecting us with this "disease" are those who took part in our upbringing - parents, grandmothers, grandfathers, teachers, teachers, etc. Of course, they do not deliberately instill in us insecurities, fears and possibly even phobias. Education of man is a very fine science. Millions of scientists work in this field, with every year a huge amount of information is published on education, but the concept of "correct education" has not been developed yet. Each author gives his recommendations on how to correctly and correctly behave when raising a child. But even if and strictly follow the chosen instructions, a person will grow up not rid of complexes. The reason is that in this case a person will lack love, he will live only by instruction. And each of us needs emotions, and not only our own, but also strangers.
Complexes are very easy to find, but it's difficult to get rid of them. For example, a mother in her childhood did not show special affection for the child, and he could develop an inferiority complex. Or dad will tell his son "that you're roaring, are you that girl? I thought I had a boyfriend," or my daughter "the girl should be neat, and you got a dirty little thing, just a pig." These are such simple words, but said from the heart, can leave a trace in the soul of the child. And this pursues him throughout his life. The complex is stony and rooted, and becomes part of a person's character.
The complexes have a certain feature. They are manifested only when they are indicated by a person whose opinion we consider. Agree that often we do not care what an absolutely unknown person will say about us, which does not deserve any respect from us. But if something close to us tells us something unpleasant to us, it can embarrass us and even cause stress.
Another feature of the complexes is that new ones are manifested in people who already have an inferiority complex. Self-confident people are practically not exposed to such a risk. They do not filter the information they need or ignore them altogether.
How to get rid of complexes and gain confidence
Less afraid and worry. This prevents the adoption of the right decision. In addition, fear and emotions have a negative impact on health. And so that they leave, try to smile and laugh more. Believe me, it's much easier and more beautiful to live, walking in life with a smile and optimism. Excessively focusing their attention on their complexes, people themselves provoke their development. Often, from which many of us create complexes, we can present as a virtue, as a highlight, which is able to distinguish us from others. But success depends only on your attitude. Correct attitude to yourself, to your shortcomings and virtues will help you get rid of complexes.
Begin to believe in yourself. Be confident in everything that you do. Try to please yourself first of all, because everyone does not like you. Do not be afraid to show your confidence. You must not only be confident in yourself and in your words, but also speak the truth and live in accordance with this truth. This will make you a really happy person. You begin to respect others, you will be loved. But love is the highest point of any relationship. Your life will become interesting and bright.
Remember, the result in combating complexes, and in any other endeavors, can be achieved thanks to two factors - faith and action. So believe in yourself and act, and you will succeed.