Scientists have long proved that from a low mobility and excess weight, men suffer no less than women. In Russia, obese men account for 30% of the total population. And without damage to the body you can lose weight only by doing sports and eating properly. But the man himself forced to change the habitual way of life is very difficult. Fortunately, psychologists know how to make a man go in for sports, monitor his health and appearance. They believe that the whole thing is a weak motivation. And then loving women can help men.
Psychological support.
Actually, however trivial, it is worthwhile to start working on motivation precisely with a conversation. Give your husband to understand that you love him and such as he is. That he is still dear to you and the extra pounds do not spoil him at all. "Beloved, first of all, I am concerned about your health and only then appearance" - this phrase is the key to your success. The main thing is to place the accents correctly. If you constantly express your dissatisfaction with the appearance of a partner, it can offend him and even anger him. He will no longer be up to the sport. But your health care will be perceived much better. Men are afraid of illnesses and will rather agree to play sports for the sake of health than because of beauty. High blood pressure, heart failure, diabetes, impaired reproductive function, impotence - this is an incomplete list of diseases, which is worth mentioning to a sedentary husband.
On the other hand, do not overdo it too much. Try to give everything in the form of good advice, and not a description of the approaching apocalypse. "We will cope with all problems if we act together!" Psychologists say that "we" is the main trump card in your struggle for the harmony and health of your husband. Your partner should feel support and decide to change your way of life. After all, playing sports require a lot of time and change the way of the usual life "on the couch". Prepare a series of non-recurring compliments and encouraging phrases. Researchers have long proved that the male brain responds positively to pleasant words, as well as female. "You are a great boy - the result is already visible!", "It remains very little, most importantly, do not despair!", "It's okay, do not cut yourself now! We can all fix it! "- include these phrases in your arsenal. Your partner should understand that sport and a healthy lifestyle are not a business for two weeks, but a change in the rhythm of life for many years. And maybe forever. Your task is to adjust it to the fact that the fruits of its limitations will not appear immediately.
All in your hands.
Before you get to the radical measures - a strict diet and sports hall, try to change the home menu and the range of entertainment. In many ways, health and appearance depend on nutrition. Replace greasy food with healthy foods, make more salads with vegetable oil, serve fish and seafood. Do not be lazy in the morning to fill special containers with a diet lunch that your spouse will take with him to work. Going to a restaurant, advise her husband useful dishes. "Dear, you tried meat with potatoes last time, you better take a salad with arugula. It's very tasty and useful! "," Maybe we will not drink beer, but order a glass of red dry wine? ". Get up yourself from the couch and initiate a joint walk along the boulevards or hike to the ice rink. Buy yourself and your beloved man videos and bike. Active way of life and sports are not only simulators and training in the fitness center. First of all, it is an image of positive thinking.
Your trump cards.
Go to a little trick: do not call things by their proper names. For example, instead of constantly telling your husband about diet and fitness, operate with the concept of a "healthy lifestyle". He does not lose weight, but begins a new life, takes care of his health and goes in for sports.
Put his institute photo in a prominent place. Sooner or later your partner will understand what you mean by saying that he has changed since your acquaintance. Psychologists say that visual motivation is the strongest. Man likes to look at himself and enjoy the image. Old photos and videos can stimulate the desire to see the same image in the mirror. And what is needed for this, the man himself understands. Develop an action plan in stages with your husband. Set before him small and realistic goals. So, for small victories you together will not notice how you will come to one big one.
Once in the store, make sure your partner tries on the thing he likes, but half the size. "Darling, you almost got into this suit! This is victory! You have very little left! "Such words will act encouragingly on anyone, even the biggest skeptic, and he will become even more involved in sports.
Think of your own reward for any, even the most insignificant result. Men, like women, like gifts, beautiful clothes, attention and affection - that's what you are going to present to him this time. All people are looking for approval! The material reward in the form of a gift is able to replace the endorphins obtained from the lazy "drinking" of beer on your favorite couch.
And, of course, always tell your husband how much you care about him. A new sport lifestyle and an unusual healthy diet is always stressful. At such moments, not to break and not throw everything halfway help only love and understanding of loved ones. Strange as it may seem, but it is you, to a certain extent, responsible for the good mood and results of your changing husband. And therefore, be patient (a healthy lifestyle is forever) and act on the basis of a specific situation.
Another's experience.
Sometimes someone's successful results cause you to get off the couch and do yourself much quicker than his wife's mournful rant about the dangers of beer and potatoes. Forcing a man to play sports, tell your loved one about the successes of famous people. For example, the German designer Karl Lagerfeld at the age of 64 years lost 42 kilograms. For 13 months, the fashion designer has exhausted his body with diet and sports in order to feel young and wear clothes designed by the designer of the men's line Dior Hedy Slimane. Lagerfeld himself believes that "you need to lose weight only in order to become happier". Governor of Arkansas Mike Hakabi lost 45 kilograms. He simply reduced calorie intake and began to lead an active lifestyle. "It turned out that running is very pleasant and healthy," he admitted in an interview. Joseph Prigogine - husband and producer of the singer Valeria - under the strict control of his wife lost 22 kilograms. Low-calorie diet and family trips to the fitness center have done their job. However, Joseph is not going to stop there. After all, thanks to his wife, proper nutrition, multiplied by physical activity, became the way of his life.