In life, there are very different situations, especially on the love front. Well, who does not know, let's say such a scenario? An ordinary guy met on the street with a girl, they had mutual sympathy, constant meetings, heart-to-heart talks, gradual careful recognition more and more new about each other. However, the girl meets a young man who is like a suitcase - and to throw it is a pity, and to carry heavily. But the new acquaintance is also very fond of her and she does not intend to lose it, because, as a man he is very good, and he, the second-horned, has already exhausted her with an absolutely endless jealousy.
It would be right in such a situation just to break old relations and completely plunge into a new romance, but the girl is scared, after all, there are more than three years of relationships, but there's only three months of dating. Clear and well-known against everything new and therefore frightening. For a girl this is a serious dilemma, so she powder her head and herself and her cavaliers. And the unfortunate lover for the hundredth time asks: "What should I do? I can not do this anymore ... "
In general, giving various advice is not very correct, since any situation is very individual and there are simply no universal "recipes for happiness". But if you want, you can just share your experience, and it's up to everyone - how to apply this information. As they say, it is best to gain experience on other people's mistakes, and since the "triangular" theme, for sure, each of us had to learn in practice, then I offer you my person in the role of a pictorial example and visual aid how to do better not and how to get rid of from a love triangle.
The story that I will now tell is simple to the extreme. After 3 years of dealing with a guy who was jealous of me just for every pillar, and besides, he put all his numerous complexes on me, I finally met Him. He said such words! He read such poems! And his compliments? Yes, I just did not see such an attitude in my life, it was only in books and movies about love! As a result, my head was spinning, birds were singing in my soul, my eyes saw only roses, my legs did not touch the ground at all, in general a complete set of all sorts of romantic experiences.
Only a small cloud on the horizon loomed - his six-year-old son's wife. But I'm not a bitch, I understand that a small child needs a father, so I was not going to take my husband out of the family. And the fact that he is better with me in all respects, well, is it my fault that his wife is just a megger. Probably, it was necessary to leave the relationship at that level, and everything would be fine: after a certain time, I would simply be tired of being only a mistress, and I most likely would leave him, or he himself initiated the break. In any case, these relations would be fair - each of us knew the rules of the game and could at any time get out of it. It's clear that such a statement of the question is very rational and pragmatic, and my beloved considered himself a great romantic, so our relations developed in a rather dramatic scenario with details of the tragedy. It's familiar, is not it?
And now practical advice how to get rid of a love triangle. Once one of the vertices, you need to try to objectively assess your own chances in the subsequent struggle and adequately determine the place that you occupy. The fact that the vertices of a triangle are equal, is true only in mathematics, and in love, even an isosceles triangle is a great rarity, what can we say about equilateral ones.
You need to try to part with your pink glasses for at least a short time, so that a sober look can assess the object of passion, or maybe you just need to turn around and just walk away, so that you can not regret about the time wasted aimlessly. We must try our best to get rid of the love triangle. Imagine for a moment what would have happened if he had divorced his wife, and then you realized that this is absolutely not the person with whom you could live, and from which you would like to give birth to a child.
Do not need to adjust yourself to the standards of partner expectations, just be yourself and first of all follow your own interests, and not invented by someone else's principles. Get rid of the constant oppressive situation.
You can not allow yourself to be deceived and fed with frivolous promises, if you feel their insincerity.
Never need to discount the opinion of others or people close to you. As a real guide to action, they certainly are not suitable, but as an evaluation from an uninterested party they have a significant advantage. From the outside and from the inside, any object has the ability to look different, and even human relationships, even more so.
And, finally: do not underestimate the 3rd side of the triangle, which you often only know in absentia. It is very doubtful that he (or she) will simply take a passive position, and will simply wait for the card to lie down. Even in the event that you and your lover (or mistress) are encrypted somewhere at the level of illegal residents, then there is a very significant chance that the affair will simply pop up. Then getting rid of a love triangle will be easier than you think.
And already very late. Here one can turn to those who create a "triangular" situation on their own: just have the courage to fully realize that you are free to assume a triple responsibility for your own destiny, as well as for the destinies of those two whom you had the desire to draw into the game. Do not force them to make an imaginary and wrong choice ("Decide for yourself, do I need you with such problems?"). It is you who must choose and decide what it is you to do and get rid of the love triangle.