If you are married and met the former love

Each of us lives his life, has his own interests and goals. People have different opportunities and needs, character and temperament. Everyone had their meetings and partings. And so, an adult life comes. There comes the moment when, as they say in the whole well-known song: "people meet, people fall in love, get married". Many couples live happily ever after in marriage, certainly not without minor problems and quarrels. But the number of families that have broken up is inexorably growing. The reason for divorce is often alcohol, cruelty and violence in the family. But can this very reason be that the wife met her last great love? We will try to answer such a difficult question: "What if you are married and met your former love?"

To begin with, girls and women who ask themselves this question are not easy. After all, most of them love their husband, many already have children and they live their measured life, doing family work, and they are all happy. But there are also such girls who married early or just for an unloved person. And then HE appears! The one with whom you connect a lot, and maybe not much, but some connection has remained. He who has become even more beautiful, more courageous and more interesting. It does not matter where you met him and under what circumstances. Maybe he did not notice you. And you started to pop up pictures from the past. Despite the fact that your relationship was not ideal (based on the fact that you still broke up), only pleasant, bright moments are remembered, as they walked around the park, danced at a disco, relaxed in nature, went on a trip, etc. . All this climbs and climbs in your head. You catch yourself thinking that you are thinking about it more and more often. And you ask yourself again and again, what should you do if you are married and met former love?

Let's think, why can not you forget your ex-lover? Let's consider the possible reasons for this:

® Memories of novels that have remained in the past often become "much better" than they were after a time. Insults disappear somewhere, and good moments become more meaningful. And in the current relationship, everything negative and positive goes in parallel. Everything good, for some reason quickly forgotten, but the shortcomings lie on the surface. Especially if we take into account the fact that thoughts about the past novel persist.

® New relationships do not suit you in some way. Something is wrong, and you just can not figure it out. As a result, hide behind these memories of the past.

® Joyful pity. This is a very common move of women's thoughts. You think that he is so lonely, and after you he had no one else. You have left a deep imprint on his soul, and no one can replace you. Oh, what a sweet balm to your heart. And there is a desire to "make happy" him, because he will be so happy, will carry you in his arms. Obviously, he already realized that he had lost, not that your current one, which does not appreciate you.

® You are overly exaggerating your memories. Maybe it turned into a habit? It is possible that in your case you occasionally meet on the street. It is possible that this is what prevents you from leaving the past alone and making it just a pleasant rare memory.

® Is it true love? This option also takes place. In this case, you still need to talk with the former lover heart to heart. After all, he may well be unaware of your flushed feelings again, and do not want to return the past.

Now let's try to understand this situation in more detail.

If you are married and met the former love, and this meeting has caused a storm of emotions and memories, you need to draw your attention to the fact that in due time you broke up. And this means that there was a reason for this. If you have met for a long time, and yet have dispersed, there must be a serious reason. It's about it you should think about. And also, remember the difficult moments of your relationship, your communication. There is a high probability that when the novel is resumed, all of this can stir up again and you can not part with it again. Such thoughts and memories often stop the desire to "bring everything back."

Try to understand yourself. Do you cherish your marriage, your family, in particular your husband? Do you need them?

Do you want to resume the former relationship? What will you do if your ex-lover suggests that you start all over again? Answering honestly this question, you help yourself to clarify the picture.

What can you do if you are strongly categorized in favor of former love? First you need to try to cool down. This is necessary in order to soberly assess the situation. Ask yourself if the feeling that is called "love" really flared up in you? Or is it just a passion, a thirst for an intimate connection, based on the memories of the days gone by? Or is it just an acute nostalgic attack? If this you have not figured out yet, because your brain is absorbed in your experiences, and the thoughts of betraying your husband creep in your head, imagine yourself with all the details in a situation where you have already committed it. Presented? Well, and how does it feel? Can you live with this? In their situation, everyone decides for himself.

But, if you still want to live by what you have now and sincerely love your husband, you do not need to deceive him, even if only in your thoughts. Gather with strength and yourself once and for all forbid to stir up the past. Only by adopting this firm decision, you will have a real opportunity to forget the former love. It will certainly not be easy, but who said that life is an easy thing?