Pros and cons of living together.
In most cases, living with parents, a young family does not pay for housing, which saves money. If parents live in harmony with one another and their relationships are good, then one can build their own relationship according to their example. Facilitate the strengthening of the relationship between the two families joint conversations. In the household management, both families help each other: when you come home from work late, you can always expect to have dinner. The younger generation can always get wise advice in a difficult situation. When a young child appears in a young family, the help of the parents will come in handy.
But there are many negative points if young people have to live with their parents. For example, parents often do not accept that young people are already adults. Often give their instructions in an "orderly order." This will eventually lead to conflicts. At best, such instructions will be ignored. There are many reasons for the occurrence of conflicts. This may be a prejudiced attitude towards a person who has appeared in the house. The mother-in-law grumbles at her son-in-law, her mother-in-law does not like her daughter-in-law. Dislike can be expressed in different ways: in hostility, in discontent from parents, etc. Constant depression at the psychological level is often experienced by young families. When the situation is not correctable, this can be detrimental to the relationship of the newlyweds with each other.
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Consider the everyday inconvenience. When a new member of the family appears, there are such problems: who first takes a bathroom or toilet, who will take the stove in the kitchen. And also the appearance in some places of new shoes, socks and other items. Why did not they remove the mug, etc. In this situation, parents should be more patient and wiser, without exacerbating the situation.
Parents constantly try to give advice, it seems to them that they know everything and have the right to teach young people. Accordingly, young people do not like it, and conflicts arise. The only point is that parents should be wiser and try to understand their children.
At the beginning of cohabitation, parents pay for young people some services, but they eventually become bored with paying for a new family member. In such cases, constant reproaches begin, and both sides have a hard time.
Also quarrels can arise because of personal dislike. Some parents do not express their opinion in the "open", others do not want to restrain themselves in their emotions and speak out harshly about the chosen one or the chosen one of their child. The spouses constantly because of this are in psychological tension and are in conflict with each other. Especially "unsweetened" is for someone who is between two close people - on the one hand parents, on the other loved or beloved.
Very often, when young people have to live with their parents, there is a dislike for the "newcomer" because of personal inconveniences. For example, a mother-in-law can not walk in an apartment in a nightgown or with curlers on her head. The father-in-law is deprived of the right to walk around the apartment in his underpants and much more. Do not forget that in every family there are their own traditions and rules, to which also not just to adapt. This causes misunderstanding.
Conflict situations can arise when new guests appear in the house, when watching TV (after all, everyone likes their programs). Do not forget that both families have their own intimate needs. Joint living of two families brings their inconveniences into an intimate life, which can not affect the relationship of both young and parents. At some point, you should go shopping, visit friends, in other words, allow young people and their parents not to meet for a while.
How can you learn to live with your parents peacefully? Use several tips. Try to learn how to solve problems as they arise. Communicate more with each other, talking on different topics. Learn to listen carefully and consider each other's opinions. In these situations, look for the way out together - do not say "this is your problem".
Young must learn to respect the wisdom of their parents. And adults need to realize that their children have the right to make many decisions on their own. When talking, try not to raise your voice at each other. Together, you must overcome failures, learn and rejoice together. Be attentive to each other, polite and patient. Do not accumulate negative energy, so that there is no "explosion" of emotions. Do not try to impose your opinion on others. If you take advantage of these tips, the life of the young with the parents will be amicable. Do not forget the adults that they were once young.