Every man who ties himself by the bonds of marriage dreams of a happy married life. Ah, if you could predict how the family life will develop. And where to find the formula of family happiness? Unfortunately, sometimes we realize too late that we could act differently. So, what is needed to create a strong and happy family:
Firstly, this is regular communication. At all business, work, children, weariness, nervousness. But when the children are asleep, spend more time in a relaxed, friendly atmosphere (discussion of a film, a book, a play). Psychologists recommend together to attend fun activities: couples who have fun together, remain for many years.
Be sure to find yourself being loved. Aromovanna, massage, meeting with a friend over a cup of coffee in a neighboring coffee house - all these are emitters of positive emotions, to receive pleasures from one's own life, and, accordingly, for the benefit of the conjugal.
Support each other in pursuit of common and your own life goals - a strong happy family will be just for you.
More think about the merits of your spouse. Instead of positioning yourself on the flaws, think more often about its merits. And you will get much more pleasure from communicating with your mate.
It is necessary to behave as if you fell in love. Even if you are very tired, make yourself smile and life will become brighter. Going home hug your husband (even if you are greeted by a mountain of unwashed dishes) and your life will be filled with new rays of love.
Never refer to your husband with the intonations of the patron. Make small expenses yourself, and large ones, try to consult your husband and involve older children in the family budget, explaining how much money you have and what you can buy.
Never refuse to the husband in intimacy, and furthermore to punish him this way. In order not to complain later that he is looking for something on the side. At the wife who understands the husband in this question, never there will be problems with the spouse!
Regulate relations with parents. Invite guests, visit, help - but do not let them in their affairs, do not share secret secrets, do not complain. Try to treat your parents alike, both to your own and to your husband.
The main thing is, accept your husband as you are, learn to tolerate and forgive each other's mistakes. The atmosphere of family happiness, largely depends on the woman, on her skill and tact, cunning and mind. And many may think: "Why should a woman tolerate and invent? Only because it is the woman, the creator of family happiness, and for this and not a sin and will work. It is clear that fate sometimes connects completely different people. Trying to rub against each other, we have to endure a lot of inconveniences, quarrels, conflicts and only patience and deep respect for those who are close to finding compromises and the right decisions, so as not to extinguish the family hearth and even the strongest fire of love.
Family happiness is not, where people get tired of the fact that they accumulate grievances. Because of quarrels, we regret ourselves, adding fuel to the fire, our feelings, remembering past sins. Making decisions to forgive, it is necessary to learn, to do sincerely, without returning to the past. Otherwise, you will not survive the burden of grievances and claims, and your quarrels and conflicts in the family will not end. And then your family life will turn into an old record with the same motif, which one day will want to change forever. It's not for nothing that psychologists advise spouses, do not go to bed without reconciling.