At first, someone might like the very fact of such a strong affection, but in the end there comes a time when it is simply necessary to make clear to the man that he can not count on reciprocity. And I want to do this gently and correctly, so as not to offend a person inadvertently and not cause him too much pain.
How to let a man know that you do not need him? The most obvious answer: honestly and directly tell a man about his attitude towards him. Truth is not so easy to do as it seems from the outside. You need to talk face to face, start with the good things that you like in him and smoothly bring him to the idea that you do not plan in the near future with someone to communicate closely. It is possible that to understand the man it will be difficult. Maybe he will be even more sure that he has met his fate and with renewed vigor will "storm the fortress".
Letting a man understand his indifference is necessary not only with words, but with nonverbal hints. Absent looking at the meeting, inattention during conversation, indifference to the subject of conversation, switching attention to other people must necessarily reinforce your behavior. If you decide not to give an extra reason for communication, be persistent until the end.
Try not to laugh at jokes, not to flirt, even maybe not to smile and not to nod your head. Do not instill hope in man out of pity. So you just make everything more complicated.
Try to introduce him to your lonely girlfriend, maybe a man will switch his attention to a more "friendly object". Help them to find common ground, adjust to a friendly way and quietly leave alone.
Ask one of your friends with a solid appearance to talk to him like a man.
If constant excuses do not help, and you become scared, under constant persecution, you need to act thinner and more cunning. Think about what in your gestures, facial expressions, speech can repel, cause irritation or even disgust. Insert the speech into the conversation inappropriately, interrupt, call him at three o'clock in the morning, behave extravagantly in the presence of his mother or people who influence him, appear before him in an unattractive form.
Try not to put on too frank clothes for a while, do not make crazy hairstyles. Help him to lose interest in you. Maybe you should pretend that you have some disgusting habits. Ask him, finally, to borrow money from him. Let him run away from you!
Feeling that the young man starts to cool down, try to pursue it a little. The human psyche is designed so that people often run after those who need to be sought, and as soon as they get the desired result, their interest fades.
Less think how to let the man know that he is not needed, and act more. Do not sit out "in the village of my grandmother," show your ingenuity. In the end, millions of volumes are written about how to win sympathy and love, and it is very easy to destroy this fragile feeling.
Finally, think, or maybe in your heart you do not want to let go of the attached person. Ask yourself if you will be sorry if he suddenly leaves your life. In the end, not every person on Earth meets in his life a sincere and selfless love.