Horrible! I can not give him pleasure!
This is a useful fear: it encourages us to develop, learn new things to impress the imagination of MCH. The downside is uncertainty. No boy will like to persuade you: "Well, you, everything was super!" To be desirable, you must love sex and yourself. So do not ask: "Did you like it?" And whisper, languidly stretching and biting the sponge: "How I liked it ..." - and he will in any case be in the seventh heaven.
His ex-sexy Megan Fox ...
Compare is useful. And even if the comparison is not in your favor, do not be afraid of them. What prevents you from pulling to the desired level and make a guy such a massage, from which he will walk a week with a blissful smile?
He needs only sex!
And you, afraid that he is with you only on the call of physiology, arrange sexual positions, suspect him, refuse to experiment and constantly ask if he loves you? At such rates, even those who are with you, not only because of girlish charms, will reach white heat. Judge for yourself: is he really so terrible and stupid that he can not find himself, if he wishes, some kind of all-agreeable girl? Conclusion: if he is with you, in you there is something that pleases not only his dignity, but his brains and soul.
I will definitely become a mother in 19 years!
This is a very useful protective fear, which in time makes us put on condoms and boys to take pills. By the way, cyprianophobia - fear of venereal diseases - is also extremely necessary. If you are afraid of the consequences of sex so much that in principle you refuse to deal with it, or when a guy strips you, you have children and hospital beds dancing before your eyes - this is an occasion to talk with a psychologist. Only he can identify the root causes of phobia.
Well, next time he certainly asks for oral sex ...
Are you worried that the MCH will pray for something that you did not even dream of in a terrible dream? This means that you do not trust him and are not yet ready to open your body to him. Think: it's all about the lack of experience or that some male fantasies actually bring you moral and physical discomfort? If the first, then it is better to say MCH directly, that you are a little afraid, but you are ready to try it. And if the second - remember: you do not have to do anything that you do not like. But crossed out the "menu" items you can replace something like this (sexual massage, striptease, stimulating toys) that the guy will not be offended.
He will think that I'm a pervert!
If you want him to tie you to a tree, tell him sooner. But not in a tone like "sex with you is so boring, let's already try something new"! Whisper in his ear that you had a dream about an oh-so-very exciting fantasy. Speak the whole scenario out loud - for example, have sex on the phone: in a joking manner, voice any bravery and learn the reaction MCH. Ask him what he dreams about: "With you I will like anything!" Look at the film in which fantasy is embodied - not necessarily porn: you can be excited and scenes of kidnappings in action movies. Install a role-playing game. In the end, do everything yourself - he will get involved. In general, act delicately - especially if you suspect that MCH may have neophobia: a fear of novelty. By the way, you yourself can not be ready for a new one, that's why you are afraid to report about your secret desire - but what if the MCH agrees?
Probably, I will experience an orgasm, only having given birth to ten children, years in one hundred ...
If you're still not sure that the weak pleasure that once experienced - this is an orgasm, do not rank yourself as a sexual ice. Better understand the reasons. Factors that reduce sensitivity, weight: the muscles of the vagina are not trained, you are tired, the boy is too hasty and does not excite you immediately before intercourse, immunity is weakened and so on. Of course, you do not need to say to the young man: "You never gave me pleasure!" - otherwise, there will be more neurotic in the world. Study your body, try new ways of satisfaction, different rates and places of action, tune in to sex - and the first orgasm will be great!
All, of course, will be stupid and funny
Sounds, smells, damp skin, tense faces, specks on the sheet and other delights are inevitable. Did your parents try to educate you from disgusting chistyulyu? And you do not think about how to deliver and enjoy, but about how to slip into the shower afterwards? First try to pour with a guy from one tube, feed each other with a spoon, often take a bath together, always keep a cud and wet wipes with you, gently give the beloved deodorant, consider his body - get used to it. Understand yourself that on the skin and language of healthy people there are no deadly germs and nothing dreadful
But this is really scary:
- Gynophobia - fear of women
- Homophobia is the fear of men
- Philem phobia - fear of kissing
- Ntifallofobiya - fear of a resurgent male dignity
- Merevomixofobnya - fear of exposing the genitals and touching the partner's body
- Disabillophobia - fear of undressing (here dysmorphophobia - fear of imaginary appearance defects) Onanophobia - fear of harmful consequences of the same (but, as they say, the eyes are afraid, and the hands do) will not happen to you. And then imagine someone who is an embodiment of purity for you - some ideal star - and try on her the most embarrassing physiological details. All fall into awkward situations in bed - and still bathe in fountains of serotonin.
And what are the boys afraid of
They grow cold at the thought that:
• will not be able to please you
• excited at the most inappropriate place
• or are not raised in the most suitable (medomalakufobiya - fear of losing an erection - often it is in nightmares)
• you are a virgin (as it turned out, more than 70% of men are afraid to become the first, psychologists even had to come up with the term parthenophobia - fear of innocent girls)
By the way, parthenophobes are three times more than primizodofobov - girls who are afraid of panic to lose their virginity. Probably, many men just have chronic hypheniophobia - fear of responsibility)
• you will be too experienced (they will not please!)
• Your ex-sexier than Zac Efron (and, of course, you will again compare them)
• You ask him to stand on his head and in the process of experiments you will find out that he is not a sex-terminator at all
• the test will show two stripes, two stripes!
• you, looking at his dignity, will think: "Fee-and-and, this is that!"
As you can see, under the blanket of boys and girls, almost the same fears await. Therefore, it's more fun to take part in the fight and it's more useful than teamwork. And the best medicine for any fear is sex itself ...