Stiffness in sex leads to a violation of the naturalness of sexual reactions, interferes with sexual relations and excitement. Therefore, the question of how to overcome stiffness in sex becomes quite relevant. A more detailed consideration of the behavior can always find the cause. This may be the result of past events, perhaps you had to go through some annoying episode in the teenage period, experience the guilt and anxiety associated with having sex.
Few people manage to avoid such troubles in life and usually they are not so significant that they could significantly limit our sex life. As a rule, we can preserve freedom from the circumstances and activities that make us feel uncomfortable, but in extreme situations, inhibition can violate sex life sufficiently strongly, forcing us to suppress our emotions and feelings or even completely avoid sex.
The self-help program is described below. Its goal is to help adjust your behavior, change the wrong approach to sex, replace your actions with new, more flexible ones.
Sexual wine. How to overcome it? Most importantly, when you feel a sense of guilt when you have sex - learn to be sexual, give yourself the right to it, get the most pleasure from what happens during the prelude, sexual intercourse.
The following tips will help improve your sexuality. It is important not to suppress your sexual desires, you need to start thinking of yourself as a person who is interested in sex life.
Activate your imagination. It's good to start work on yourself from work on fantasy, as it is easier to overcome stiffness in your imagination than in reality. If it's hard for you to fantasize, use sexually explicit books and magazines to stimulate the imagination. Do not worry if your fantasies will be with you not only your partner, but also with other people or you will present episodes that will cause horror. Fantasy in our case is a way of studying feelings, for a long time suppressed and does not necessarily indicate your preferences. It does not mean at all that you will in the future begin to embody fantasies in reality.
Love your body. Reconsider the approach to sexual life. Imagine how an experienced adult would evaluate your attitude toward sex. Strictly consider any preconceived beliefs, as if you learned about them for the first time. Are they based only on emotions, and therefore difficult to justify by reason? If so, try to get rid of them once and for all.
Become a hedonist. Change the proposition: "Any pleasure for pleasure is not lawful." So usually men argue, carrying a heavy load of sexual guilt. If you think that you work and relax a little, you spend not only on the most necessary things, it's unlikely that you will enjoy life. Feeling guilty for the wrong way of life will be a hindrance. Try to make yourself more receptive to a variety of pleasures, liberating in life a place for sensual enjoyment - for music, delicious food, pictures or literature of erotic content. This will make it easier to treat sex as an important source of pleasure.
If it is difficult for you to agree that sexual feelings are legitimate, you obviously have a rational judgment of your behavior.
During sexual intercourse, one must feel and experience, cease to be more of an observer. Doing sexual intercourse, try to focus on what you experience from contact with the partner's body.
Do not hold back, afraid to seem ridiculous, vulnerable or unworthy of attention. Do not be constrained. Perhaps you have always committed sexual intercourse in silence, so as to attract less attention to your actions or for the reason that you did not consider it necessary to demonstrate your pleasure and to behave frankly.
Overcoming such stiffness in sex can, consciously losing self-control in sexual intercourse. For example, you can express your feelings with a cry, with heavier breathing or active body movement. Express pleasure in any way that is pleasant for you. Perhaps the first time it will be easier to do during masturbation.