It's one thing, when you have a boyfriend, you meet with him for a long time. Everything seems to be going well. Your relationship is developing rapidly. You are together day and night, together celebrate holidays, spend holidays together or vacations, parents expect something more significant from you, such as marriage. You understand that your relationship with the guy is no longer within the scope of this definition.
Parting with the guy of your dreams is the most terrible dream, which simply can not be dreamed by definition. This is love. And here at this place happens terrible: treason, betrayal or something else extraordinary. The tale breaks off overnight. Of course, this is a problem. Heavy, with an unforeseen outcome and consequences. But there is one "but" here. With traitors, basically, they part. You all understand: the guy is a villain, and you're a victim. Relationships continue to make no sense. And you lead your destinies. Part and the point. Someone leaves with proudly raised head, but such mentally balanced persons are few. Usually, before parting, the girl makes serious analysis of flights. Only then, still proud and offended, she leaves. This version of the parting is clear and quite simple, no matter how cynical it may sound.
And what to do to those who simply do not have a relationship initially. For some reason, they continued and dragged on. Breake down? This becomes one of the most urgent issues. But how to do this, how to part with a guy, if the relationship drags on and does not cause him pain? It's terrible for me to take such a responsibility. It's easier when a guy is also not very interested in continuing such a "romance". Here everything is solved quickly and fairly painlessly for both sides.
But it also happens that this relationship weighs only you. In this case, many girls fall into panic and despair. The favorite way is not to decide everything, but first to pass all your problems onto someone: girlfriends, mothers. To listen to their "practical" advice and ... And do it anyway in your own way. Now it has become fashionable to surf the Internet space, flooding the women's forums with their heart-rending stories and asking: how to be? And the extravaganza begins. On the other side of the monitor, completely unfamiliar people who, most likely themselves are somehow deprived, once they spend time distributing free advice about and without, are literally gushing with ideas.
You really want to help "leave the guy if the relationship is delayed" - so your question sounds on the forums. And you try the same people to ask the same question, a bit of it to paraphrase: "Do I need to leave the guy if the relationship is delayed?" Do not believe it, but the fountain "in excess of valuable" ideas will not dry up. These same opponents will begin to assure you of the opposite, to contradict themselves. Without a twinge of conscience. We will not analyze why and why it happens. This is a separate, very interesting topic. Just know that in addition to you, not a single living soul will be able to make the right decision, to find the right words.
The only way out of this problem is conversation. Just how this conversation will be, it's up to you and your chosen one. Either you will sit down civilized at the negotiating table and calmly place all the points above the "i". Either your conversation will take place on some other scenario. It depends on many factors, from the level of upbringing, ending with magnetic storms.
The main thing is to decide for yourself that this is the only right decision in the current situation (this is so that then you do not regret it, it happens that way). Then it is necessary to be brave and determined to take this step, to bring the sentence into execution. Of course, it is very important to adjust yourself in advance, that the outcome of your explanatory conversation can be any, even, perhaps not predictable. Try to convince yourself that your boyfriend will have every right to resentment and how this offense will affect you - then it is better to provide all possible options.
It must be remembered that from any situation there is always a way out. Any problem should be approached with a drop of healthy selfishness and sympathy, understanding of who, perhaps, you will cause pain. Even if this pain is for the sake of salvation. Be able to put yourself in the place of that other. The rest will come by itself: how it should be formulated, when it is necessary to be pronounced. Listen to yourself, your intuition and your mind. More determination and self-confidence. Then everything will turn out. Everything, as you conceive.