Begin with yourself.
The fact that my husband began to treat you more coldly, maybe he is guilty. But if the spouse does not make any efforts to correct the situation, and you long for changes, someone still has to start. Relationships are hard work that is not always rewarded on merit. But do not lose hope. First, analyze what has changed in your intimate relationships, what problems you see, for what reason it could happen. Do not think: " everything is bad, " because surely there are good moments - faithfulness, regularity or something else. We need only passion, we will try to return it.
Restructuring.
In order to let a jet of fresh air into your life, you have to get rid of excess rubbish. Look critically at your bedroom: what does it look like - for a place for amorous pleasures or a junk warehouse? Without regret, get rid of everything that distracts from the main and hinders the right mood. Old things, boxes, not beautiful bedding, trivial pictures take to the garbage disposal, and the TV, computer and bright lamps - to another room. Try to create an intimate romantic atmosphere that creates the right associations.
Then look at your wardrobe. What are you going to bed in recently - in pajamas and socks or in sexy lingerie? All "grandmother's" shirts, pajamas let them wait for their time in the closet - they will come in handy many years later. Show yourself to your wife in seductive underwear or stay naked - this excites the most.
However, in attempts to improve the situation, it is necessary to avoid vulgarity. Do not copy the interior and outfits from porn, otherwise the husband may be frightened of such sudden changes.
Play in passion.
Psychologists have long known that if you imitate for a long time what is not, it will eventually become a reality. This is not about orgasms - their appearance is unlikely to be affected even by the most successful imitation, but passion can return if you remember exactly all of your thoughts, emotions and gestures that were during your honeymoon. Recreate the atmosphere that was until the moment when your sex life became boring.
Start with yourself - remember what haircut you had at the beginning of your relationship, what style of dress you preferred, how you behaved and what you said. Change perfume - odors act on men more effectively than outspoken clothes. Do not sit at home in the evenings - get in the habit of going out to visit, in restaurants and movies in your free time with your husband. Let him make sure that men pay attention to you, this acts the hardest. Your man will be convinced that you are in demand and want to return the lost positions, now he will have to prove it. That he is worthy of you. But do not flirt in an attempt to cause jealousy, otherwise the reunion may end in a banal quarrel, which will alienate you from each other even more.
New solutions to old problems.
When the passion is gone, the best thing to do is to give up the usual stereotypes. Resolve yourself for something that until now has not been solved. Let a few experiments that do not contradict your principles and like both. A new pose, decor, in the end, a place for your intimate encounter can do wonders. But in the pursuit of novelty, be yourself, let your beloved love you, not the person you want to appear.
Any feelings and attitudes, like a roller coaster - then up, then down. Passion then fades away, then flares up again. If you are not ready to wait for a new turn and do not want to guess what the next changes will be, act, then your love will be the same as in the first days of acquaintance.