Despite the fact that the process of accustoming to a pot - the science is simple, it is rare for any of the mothers and dads to achieve this without tears and hysterics on the part of the child. And all because often training is "not at the proper level" - wrong, intrusive, and most importantly - not at the right time! To correct the situation will help familiarize yourself with the five parental misconceptions that prevent the establishment of "friendship" between crumbs and a pot.
Myth number 1. But what if we do not have time?
Life accelerates, we accelerate, and it often turns out that we run ahead of the locomotive. The kid does not yet know how to walk, but we are already trying to teach him how to read and write, he does not really control his body, but we stand with a pot at the ready, say, it's time. Where are we hurrying? Scientists argue that the final formation of conscious control of the intestine in a child occurs about 18 months.
So, up to one and a half years, all our attempts to teach the baby to cope with his big and small cases in the place indicated by the parents are simply absurd.
He just does not understand what they want from him. As a result, training in pot usage turns into a training of will and development of vigilance in the mother. All! This has nothing to do with the child. And the fact that at an early age takes several months, is accompanied by hysterics of the child and periodically the despair of the mother, after one and a half years of life the crumbs goes by itself in a matter of days and weeks.
Myth number 2. We will not be taken to kindergarten!
Indeed, when enrolling in a kindergarten, educators insist that the child has primary self-service skills - so that the baby can dress, use a pot and eat it himself. But let's look at the situation soberly.
Are you planning to give the child to a nursery in infancy? Hardly. Psychologists advise you to delay with the infusion of infants in children's groups at least years to 2, and preferably to 3-3.5. This is due to the fact that until this age the child is not psychologically ready for separation from his mother and for a long time in a flock of his own kind. He does not yet have the need for socialization, communication with peers, he needs a mom, well, at the very least, a grandmother or a nanny. So why start preparing a baby for kindergarten a couple of years before this fateful event happens? And even with such an anguish. Yes, of course, there are situations where parents have to determine the children in the nursery much earlier than the period indicated by the psychologists, but you do not give the child to the senior group, he will go to the place where caregivers and nannies must take care of him, and care for the children is given an important role. In the end, this is their work, which they, of course, want to ease themselves. No more.
Myth number 3. Masha (Dasha, Lena ...) the child was able to use the pot at 6, 8, 9 months ...
These stories, like city bikes, live their lives and are passed from mouth to mouth, from one mother to another. At the same time, nobody personally knows the "gifted" innovator moms, but everyone believes that they exist, and then a natural question arises: "Why, if others get it, I do not? I can do it too!" And begins a desperate struggle for the pot and the title of the ideal mother. The struggle is difficult, exhausting and, most importantly, useless. Useless not only because it contradicts the processes of physiological maturation of the child's organism, as mentioned above, but also because you can not prove your ideality to everybody. Why does anyone have to evaluate if you are good enough for your baby? Especially when it comes to prejudices that have nothing to do with the real state of affairs. Tomorrow it will be found out that in some Masha the child has already spoken in three languages in a year, and that, you too will start to distort your wrong verbs? The degree of ideality of your maternal abilities can depend only on one: how well-groomed, healthy and happy is your baby's life.
So, you can not teach your child to use a pot at 6 months? No you can not. The only thing that is based on success in this matter is at the training of my mother. Typically, the technique of early potty training is based on the fact that periodically, for example, once every 20-30 minutes, the mother offers the crumb to go to the toilet. This is achieved in many ways, for example, the baby is held over the sink, while the tap turns on, and under the murmur of water the child celebrates the need. And that's all! My mother forgot to hold the baby over the sink, he dipped his panties. So who do we train in this case?
Myth number 4.
Disposable diapers harm potty training
Say, in diapers the kid does not feel discomfort, and there are no wet panties - there is no desire to learn to use the pot. The Institute of Pediatrics, Obstetrics and Gynecology of the Academy of Medical Sciences of Ukraine confirms that the use of disposable diapers for up to 18 months does not cause the child to become addictive and does not prolong the period of the child's training in neatness afterwards. The rate of accustoming to the pot does not depend on whether the child wears disposable diapers, he is put on sliders or wrapped in diapers. In support of this, we can also cite the results of a study conducted by Western scientists, during which two groups of twin children were collected. One in the care of children used gauze diapers, and in the second - disposable diapers. And it turned out that in both cases, the need for diapers and diapers disappeared at the same age - an average of 27 months.
Myth number 5.
Boys are not good at disposable diapers
There is a misconception that disposable diapers negatively affect the reproductive functions of boys, which, naturally, causes concern among the mothers of young gentlemen. There is a whole theory about the "greenhouse effect" under this myth - ostensibly in the diaper is too warm, and as you know, excessive heat affects the quality of spermatozoa badly, and in the future it can lead to infertility. In fact, it's the same as believing in that if a child plays with dolls as a child, he will necessarily grow into a man with an unconventional orientation.But we will return to the facts.According to the studies carried out, the temperature under a disposable diaper corresponds to the temperature under ordinary diapers. Enku is dry, and in diapers the humidity is several times higher, which just creates "greenhouse conditions" for bacteria and viruses, for example. In addition, the process of spermatogenesis in boys begins no earlier than 7-8 years, in other words, the baby does not have a diaper in addition to what the heat can negatively affect.
So, there can be no talk about the harmful effects on sperm, activity and quality of spermatozoa.
When is it time?
To date, pediatricians around the world are unanimous in answering this question. Begin to teach the kids to the pot is recommended not earlier than 18 months, or one and a half years. It is to this age, the child begins to consciously control the work of the intestine and bladder. Before this, the sphincter muscles are not completely formed, the baby can not tolerate, like adults. In addition, by the age of one and a half, psychoemotional readiness of the child to the process of learning to use the pot appears. The crumb not only begins to understand what is happening to him, but can also show gestures or say that he wants to go to the toilet. Thus, mastering the "pottery science" occurs naturally, quickly and without any problems.In our article: how to teach a child to a pot, the advice of a psychologist, you learned a lot and learned a lot of useful and new information for yourself.