Confrontation "children - parents" forever. Some do not understand the others, the latter try to teach the first ... And almost always nothing good comes of it. And both sides think, painfully comprehending how to understand each other, the main complaint is that parents work, and children enjoy life ...
Children need rattles first, then expensive toys, and after their toys and entertainment become truly large-scale. For example, the overage child may want to play "in the family" or "in business." Parents, while they are responsible, are forced each time to "help out" the child. So you get a dilemma that you do not know how to understand - parents work, and children enjoy life sitting on their ancestors' neck.
It's hard for children to feel what their parents are - it's a fact. Childhood and adolescent selfishness is huge. And only when children themselves become parents, they can feel full responsibility. They can estimate how much their parents and their money, time and skills invested in them. But are the children guilty of this, or are they still understandable in that they enjoy life in full while their parents are working?
It's nobody's fault
First, children learn to walk, then - to understand life in all its manifestations. All this time, they are parents. In the early years, mom and dad - it's almost the entire universe. And the child is 100% dependent on it. Comfort and hygiene, development and communication even in the first year of life - all this must be demanded from the parents.
Children grow up, and parents still want to see in them "the very same" children, whom they have grown for many years, to which they are accustomed. But children have their own vision of the world, separate corners, inaccessible to the ubiquitous attention of parents, and even more so - their own desires (contrary to the parents' instructions "how to live right"). So, conflicts, clashes and quarrels are unavoidable.
And the most terrible thing in this difficult "teenage" time is that the child has already grown strong with his mind and is completely independent, but he does not yet have the freedom of material. Therefore everything he wants, he again demands from the universe - from his parents who have undertaken to feed him, provide and guard up to eighteen.
And now, it would seem, the last frontier. The child received a certificate of maturity, crossed a line ... but no! Wait, we're still doing. Arranged "entry" (again, at the insistence of parents - at full-time department) - we learn. And certainly "we". How once long ago it was "we eat" or "we pokakali" ...
So, five years of training, and the child is already quite adult ... Although wait! He went to work - and finally did not "we went." In the jungles of the office jungle, your "kid" has to cope on his own. Here only the salary has pumped up - with such payment in any way you will not get at least on a demountable apartment. Mom, Dad, help! Or at least, do not bother. Here you have $ 50. on my food, and for communal - so you do not turn off the light for yourself, so it burns!
And on weekends the child goes to the girl or leaves with friends, squandering his already low salary. Mom (sometimes already a pensioner) sighs, and allocates to the daughter the missing amount "for cosmetics" or "for pantyhose". So it turns out that one does not understand why parents (even retirement age) are still working, and children enjoy life at their expense ...
So, the salary has grown, the profession is found and confirmed. It's already time for parents to rest on their laurels ... But children marry and marry, and even more so on the part of the bride (even if the bridegroom is able to pay all wedding expenses), parents are going to "help". Well, it's not for their poor girl alone to drag her financial burden so heavily on her average salary!
Then the children, then the apartment, then the car is not enough ... Parents give not just everything - they give the last, if only their children were in abundance and did not need. Even if this need is imaginary, so to speak, "virtual" ...
At some point, and sooner rather than later, you need to be able to say "Stop, Enough . " To do this accurately and logically, explaining that families are now different, budgets - too. Of course, it's cruel to come with a bouquet and a cake on the birthday of your beloved daughter or son, not congratulating you with something more serious. However, if financial opportunities have pumped up, then it is possible and so. But in any case, the very moment must come when children can understand that parents not only work, but also must enjoy life. That parents can have their own plans and their savings, not related to the plans of children ...