They say it's unintelligent to switch to personalities. But we still can not wait to discuss with someone. For example, you and your inner chaos.
What an obsession? You are confident that you know yourself as flaky, plan, plan career goals - and suddenly one day (the language does not turn to call it perfect), someone inside of you begins to demand a different life. Such transformations are good for movie scripts, but in reality they do not always cause enthusiasm. First, there is too much madness in the world. Secondly, I really want to trust myself. Although, if you think about it, the innocuous expression "to trust yourself" already hints at a split personality.
Do not think that we are intimidating you, but modern psychologists like to argue that the "whole person" is nothing more than an established combination of words, but in fact the psyche of a person (absolutely healthy, by the way) is many. "Archetypes", "introjects", "subpersonalities" - all these sophisticated words mean parts of our "I". Sometimes these components are so different that their joint life "under one roof" turns into a continuous struggle, and you wonder what an unknown force makes you, who has lost a vow to lose weight, to sneak up to the refrigerator and bite sausage! It's not time to wonder: let's better understand, where these subpersonalities come from and what they want. Harmful helpers
Psychologists insist that absolutely every person still creates his own mental images inside his parents. This happens unconsciously, because the relatives hidden in the depth of the head can be frighteningly different from the real mother and father - usually in the direction of greater fatigue and monstrousness.
"You are not capable of anything," "forever you all fall izruk", "well, where did you get to?" - even an ideal mother occasionally happens to be unbearable. And in order not to be angry (because parents are supposed to love!), A good daughter accepts these words at the face value and "puts" inwardly criticizing the adult as an adviser.
Years go by, the real mom teaches less and less, but the counselor activates regularly and at the most inopportune moment - for example, by mocking up wage increases. Sometimes from the deep skeptic it is possible to wince, but more often we lose courage and as exemplary girls, we begin to listen. But we should act. First, think about who exactly and why the words are being written in you. Perhaps your mother was too anxious and once tried to protect you from failure. Or, suffering from low self-esteem, close people did not even believe in your strength. And based on the results of these meditations, try to understand: even if your real parents have done a lot of pedagogical mistakes, you can completely soften the inner self's temper. At important moments of life, feel free to ask them to shut up. Because they are just a part of your personality, which does not exactly deserve the right to sit on your neck.
But in the opinion of the mustachioed Swiss psychologist Carl Jung, who moved science a hundred years ago, parts of our "I" are given from birth. As if people are already born with prototypes (archetypes) in their souls that are filled with unique content. , Shadow, the Old Woman, these and many other models live in each of us regardless of nationality or social status (and therefore myths and tales of different peoples are so similarly understood to everyone without exception.) One of the most important female archetypes, the psychologist considered Animus, male It gives us energy and initiative, it helps to jump above the head and take risks of a mortgage loan.When we are young, we are more likely to learn the female models of behavior, but getting older, we only win if we make friends with Animus. A serious hint to get acquainted with him - romantic dreams with a beautiful stranger (or a friend who does not cause very tender feelings in life.) The Jungians argue that such dreams are nothing more than a symbolic expression of the need to receive greater support from the male part of their consciousness. So, if you are languishing in such fantasies, find time to get acquainted with your personal assistant. Draw it, write a story with his participation, play a dialogue - in short, let's freeze. By the way, such recommendations are also applicable to other marmetip. You can cooperate with everyone: both the Goddess and the Evil Old Woman are extremely useful, you just need to figure out in which situation to release their scene.
White spots on the internal map
Absolutely every child needs two basic things: parental approval and parental love.
And if adults refuse to recognize in their offspring some traits or aspirations, he too will hasten to refuse them, just to cheat mom and dad. Someone is forbidden to rub plasticine in the carpet and defend their rights; someone - to go to your favorite section or be friends with "wrong" children.The girls do not climb trees, the boys do not cry, the music is a nonprofession ... Probably you yourself can continue this list.Here, only unheard-of, our personality (they are subpersonality) will not only not disappear with age, but, like the gray cardinals, they will stealthily influence your adult life.
When your own psyche is more like a communal, it's time to ask for a neurosis clinic. And nevertheless to fall into despair of no reasons. The main task can be described as follows: to get acquainted with each of its internal inhabitants, not dividing them into right and wrong, bad and good. And this should be not just a formal acquaintance, but rather a scientific investigation. When this subpersonality arises, what does she want that loves, and what not? The more detail you find out, the higher the chance to make friends and find a common language with it. A hint on this path can serve your desires. Begin with a detailed answer to the question "What do I want?" And it does not matter that some items will contradict a friend.
Maybe someone inside of you wants to paint with oil. Do not hurry to declare this need stupid or inappropriate - after all, the lessons of the artistic studio do not oblige you to quit your job or family. But if you ignore your inner artist year after year, there is a risk that he will rebel and want to take the main place in your life. The work seems boring and the soul asks for extreme? Why not try to jump with a parachute or master a mountain bike? Quite possibly, even a one-time action called "I'm not an accountant, but a wreck" will bring a long-awaited peace and harmony.
And the fact that each of our subpersonalities has its own dignity, there is no doubt. If, for example, you become a hostage to the habit of controlling everything, look for yourself a little robber - the man will teach you not to bother with trifles. An adventurer in the spirit of Mata Haribudet is indispensable for hopeless negotiations and other dead-end situations. The main thing is to find your time and place for each of your inner heroes. Then, even in difficult moments, you will have someone to call for help and to get on with someone.