How many cunning methods, ways, strategies and tactics were invented by women to lure the freedom-loving men into the marriage network! Not many of them are ready to say goodbye to freedom on their own free will. And the most persistent and unshakable people introduced the fashion to "civil marriage", guest relations or love without obligations. This status allows you to feel unlimited freedom, be the master of the situation and bear less responsibility. But most women categorically do not agree to have "bird rights" in place of the official status and, tired of waiting for the offer, go to extremes or in cunning. To achieve success in this difficult matter will help knowledge of male psychology.
Why is the man in no hurry to make an offer?
No money (stability)
It is very commendable if a man adheres to the classical scheme of building a family: first he accumulates money for a house, then for a tree, and then for a son who will be born with a woman in lawful wedlock. A strong material foundation is extremely important for his male self-esteem - and people are not ashamed, and the son will have something to inherit. However, if a man has high beliefs, but is inactive, shifting responsibility to the state, chiefs and other factors hindering him from coming to his feet, then this state of affairs suits him. For example, you can not marry.Did not walk up
Walk like all men! But one lacks youth, and others are looking for excuses and occasions to be a "March cat" as long as possible. And it does not matter that there is a nice, kind, caring cousin next to him who, for several years now, has been catching him along other people's "roofs" and is waiting for him to settle down and make her lawful wife. Will not do it! How many around lovely bachelors and inaccessible family ladies. After all, they might never know that there is a man in the world who walks by himself, and who knows a lot about love.Eternal Bachelor
A man suffering from this syndrome (rather, enjoyer), does not hurry to bind his freedom by marriage. He appreciates too much the opportunity to make independent decisions, regardless of someone's opinion, he does not like to report and bear responsibility. In the ranks of family men such a man can only be prolonged by a great passionate love. And while it did not happen, a man, even having been in a "civil marriage" for several years, considers himself free. He does not need a wife. He needs maintenance staff.Negative attitudes toward marriage
"A good business is not called marriage!" - a favorite saying of such a man. In his close environment, there are no worthy examples of happy families, or rather - happy men in a legitimate union. And if there is, then, they, naive, do not know yet where they got into trouble. He is surely no one will ring, do not tie the knot, and will not put a stamp on him "married." It's much easier and more pleasant to have an open relationship: come-went, today with one - tomorrow with another, and if with one, then no stamps in the passport. There is only one life! Why spoil her marriage?Bad experience
The man was already married, and the failed relationship brought him much pain. Now all women for him in one world are smeared: bitch, consumer, traitor. In every new woman, he subconsciously looks for unworthy qualities, and finds. But how, who is looking for, he will always find! His bitter beliefs are confirmed, and he vows himself that there are no more marriages and serious relationships. Now he takes on the mission to take revenge on all the women for the offended peasants and, of course, not one of them will get him into legitimate husbands!How to help a man make a long-awaited offer?
Intimate talk
It is worth to find out from the man, does he even know what you want to get married. Perhaps it seems to him that for you, as for him, the stamp in the passport is nothing insignificant formality. Or maybe he's just afraid to talk to you about the wedding, because you never touched on this topic, and he thinks he will frighten you with his serious intentions. In any case, frank conversation will help you to find out the reasons for his indecisiveness. This will allow us to further build competent tactics and strategy."Wedding" ally
You will get yourself an ally from close friends or relatives of your man who are interested in his family. The future mother-in-law, brother, sister or best friend can become your reliable helpers in gaining official status. Demonstrate to them a sincere love for a person who is not indifferent to them, manifest yourself as a caring hostess, a wise woman and find to each of them an approach that touches their soul. If they understand that you are a dream woman, your man will not be able to resist their onslaught.Fear of loss
There is nothing that encourages decisive actions like fear of loss. If the man decided that you are already his woman and can not get away anywhere, it's time for him to show that he is deeply mistaken. Whether it's signs of attention from other men, night phone calls, courtship or even not too secret rendezvous - it's up to you. The main thing is that your man understands that you are a "running product" of high demand and price, which will be taken straight from under your nose if he lingers with a proposal of the hand and heart.Hint with humor
Direct questions and conversations in the forehead are not acceptable for all women. I want the initiative to come from a man. Save a woman's ego will help a beautiful hint, clothed in humor. For example:- After what was between us, I have to marry you!
- To my new manicure would be very suitable wedding ring!
- Favorite! I'm getting married! - For whom? - Do not you know? For you, of course!