In life there is also such that love can break into a happy, at first sight family, it sweeps in the life of the family as a hurricane, breaking the views of the wife and husband about each other, destroying the habitual way of their life, which causes the psyche of both spouses very serious injuries .
As the saying goes, "Paradise in a hut" is not designed for three, so he began to creep at the seams when a third appears ...
If a married woman suddenly falls in love with another, what feelings does she have? Of course, like all lovers, she experiences euphoria. In the body there is an extraordinary lightness, in the eyes of brilliance, as never thoughts become clear. And she, trying to prolong this pleasant, amazing feeling, clings to him. But!
Next to her husband, so you have to extinguish the glitter in the eyes, slow the pace and begin to rush thoughts between passion and a sense of duty. Very quickly passes the state of euphoria, it is replaced by confusion and the question: what next?
So what to do next?
First of all, stop and take your time, try to answer this question. Why did you suddenly decide that this is love? Perhaps you still continue to love your husband, just over the years your passion has cooled, and sometimes you want new, thrill and emotions, and in the husband you do not find anything new, and suddenly you noticed it in another person, here you are was drawn to him. This also happens.
And do not be confused and call love a sense of attraction. And even more so with the process of starting with an object of a new passion, intimate relationships. Since this in most cases ends in tragedy. Long to hide the intimate relationship with another man will not work. Sooner or later, everything secret becomes obvious.
To the faithfulness of his wife, men are very jealous. It's us, women, to save the family, we can pretend that we do not know anything after learning about the betrayal of her husband. A man very seriously experiences betrayal of his wife, if he does not clutch at the ax.
And if he is not an empty place for you, if you once loved him or he is just a good person, try not to hurt him. First, look into yourself and your feelings. Love it or hobby.
Of course, it's not easy at first to pretend, hiding passion. But there is no other way out. Imagine that you broke up your family, went to another person, and after a while it will turn out that your new chosen one is not suitable for your husband either. Do you think that your husband will easily forgive treason, forget about everything and let you go back ?! Maybe it's better just not to drive the horses from the very beginning, but to figure out how to get out and find a way out?
First, take a closer look at your husband. Remember what you once loved him for. Talk with him on candid topics, not touching the topic of betrayal. Maybe you will discover in it what you lacked so much, and maybe your relationship will play with new colors.
Or find a new hobby for yourself. For example, if you do not have a driving license, enroll in a course or start learning something new for yourself, maybe it will put your love in the background.
Ask your husband and lover the same questions and compare the answers. Do not be surprised if your husband wins in this secret competition. You will only benefit from this.
There is one more option. But he is the most difficult. If you love, love to health! Take this feeling of honor to the soul and let it live there. Cherish and console him. Just do not let go outside. If this feeling turns out to be love, it will quickly wither. And you will be thankful to yourself that you did not put on stupid things and destroyed your family. But if this strong real feeling, it will break itself.
True love is a wise feeling. It will break out when there is an opportunity for this, so that all participants in this history will cause much less injuries. In life, everything happens, maybe your husband will commit some unseemly act or he will fall in love with another, and you can leave it with a clear conscience. Anything can happen that will resolve your situation.
A feeling like true love can overcome everything. She will find a way out of any situation and it will be optimal. Just do not rush things. Just believe and wait and everything will be fine.