The first meeting with love is never forgotten. Like the anticipation of the first date, the frost on the skin, the heart in the heels. True, with time and the onset of complete happiness, a storm of emotions passes. And you want to keep your romantic feelings with you forever. And imagine, there are ways to do it!
Love imaginary
The closer we get to know each other, the faster romance passes. Therefore, to preserve light feelings, one must meet as rarely as possible: once a year, every 5 years. And the best thing is not to meet at all, but to keep the ideal of the Beautiful Prince in the soul. Sometimes you can feed this precious image with scenes from movies and novels. You can feed any feelings to your Prince and imagine everything you want - an ideal image will not prevent us in this. Unlike the real, covered with skin and hair of a man.
However: In this mode, young ladies of middle and senior school age live. They willingly fall in love with artists or book heroes. Until the real man (at least for a while) does not become an opponent of the ideal Prince of dreams. But even if this real one arises on the horizon, it can always be conquered by fantasy, constantly comparing it with the Ideal Chosen One. No man in the world can withstand such competition: soon he will collect his things and again hide behind the horizon line.
Love with one-way traffic
Dear and beloved continue to ignore you point-blank - is this not a reason for joy? This situation also preserves a full set of romantic feelings! Unrequited, one-sided, not mutual love can be stored for decades as a holiday service. It is akin to loving the imaginary Prince. The reality check does not threaten your relationship: what words the beloved says, hitting the finger with a hammer; does he snore at night; How many times a decade does he give flowers? - these secrets will die with him.
However: Such relationships are similar to a long-term chronic illness, forcing to give up many real pleasures. True one-sided love sometimes costs its owner very dearly.
Racing with obstacles
If these infantile ways do not suit you, you can always keep your love by finding an insuperable circumstance for two. Just like in Romeo and Juliet! By the way, it is completely unknown what would happen if these romantic heroes were united under one roof in order to live together happily ever after. "Dear Romeo, how am I tired of collecting your socks in the corners!" "Juliet, but you're not doing anything, and I'm as tired as a dog.
"And how is dinner there - not ready?"
However: Romance is in constant danger: what if you overcome all obstacles? Suddenly your perseverance will be rewarded with complete success? What then will become of the sacred thrill of love?
Love in Perpetual Motion
Psychologists know that the average half-life of romantic feelings in two beings who live under the same roof is 90 days.
That is, we can expect that in three months the feelings will be half as intense as they were in the beginning. And in a year they will turn to dust. This, apparently, guessed indefatigable "walker" Don Juan. And in recent decades, such behavior has ceased to be a privilege of the male sex. Some live like this, alternating between two states: "love has come" and "love has passed."
However: the few manage to be consistent throughout their lives. Because living without stability for most adults is too tiring.
Love triangle
You, as a train from the textbook of mathematics, constantly cruise from point A to point B. In point A you have a husband, in relation to which the word "romance" sounds simply indecent. In point В - the lover and all charm of romantic attitudes. The husband gives life stability and comfort, and the lover - excitement and passion. The husband sees his wife "in all home beauty", and before the lover, against the backdrop of obstacles, risk and exotic situation, she appears an unearthly romantic being.
However: Let's say that someday your husband gets tired of it, and he will say: "Go to your lover." And now, it would seem, a blissful moment of union: former secret lovers form a stable pair. But only the romance quickly sour from this turn of events. This, by the way, testifies to statistics: after a break with her husband because of betrayal, a woman remains to live with her lover only in one case out of 10, most often she is with someone third.
Love is gone? - Go ahead
Keeping romance, we open the account for losses. They are of two kinds: either we must sharply reduce the intensity of communication and practice superficial relations; or hide your head in the sand and go into fantasy. Or maybe it's worth to give up canned food and switch to fresh products? Maybe it's worth living with your loved one and see: what will happen next, beyond the 90-day romantic period? Is there a place for love? Some couples have already made similar discoveries. Love is too complicated, and the romantic component is only a small component of it. But it is he who is glorified by songs, movies and novels. So it seems to many that there is no other love. And if you believe it, then love will "pass" every three months!
There is an alternative view that the heat of love is something like an advance. Otherwise, we would never have dared to commit this risky adventure: to start living together. But what will happen next will be shown only by practice!