The march of Mendelssohn died down, the honeymoon ended, the two young lovers became one family. They have long dreamed about this, but reality for some reason does not justify their expectations. Almost immediately after the registration of marriage, the behavior of both spouses begins to change, unfamiliar before the second half of the habit and inclinations. If the metamorphoses that occur with women after the wedding, they say a lot and with a grin, then the changes in men are preferred to be hushed up. And the man, too, is changing. And not always for the better.
Do not immediately panic or blame yourself for all mortal sins. A similar problem arises in many women. Consequently, you can try to find common patterns, make the appropriate conclusions and find a way out of this situation. Let us analyze what changes usually occur with men after the wedding.
Expectations and Misconceptions
Becoming a legal wife, a woman expects that her husband will comply with her ideas about the ideal, urgently refuse harmful habits, stop consuming harmful foods and stop meeting friends and go fishing or hockey with them, will start making fabulous money to ensure a comfortable life and fulfill all requests and whims of the wife. A man, for some reason, does not hurry to stop perfect. At best, he does not lose the ability to cover the bed and wash dishes, occasionally prepares dinner for two, from time to time makes small gifts and arranges pleasant surprises to his second half. The recognition of the fact that his beloved has become a legal wife, do not interfere with her love and attention. But most often he either plunges headlong into the bottomless abyss of the Internet, or "guards the sofa", incidentally grumbling and making notes about and without reason. A man is waiting for delicious and varied dinners, cleanliness and order in the house, love, affection, loyalty and care. Active response in his personal program does not appear. In such cases, a woman begins to suspect her husband of infidelity, to look for non-existent shortcomings. Apritchina lies in the other.
The first year of a joint life shows that men begin to pay less attention to their wife. Romance disappears in a relationship, a woman does not receive as much attention from her as before the wedding. Meanwhile, for men this is a natural state. He was tired, squandered all the energy in the process of courtship and conquest of the beloved. Now he wants to enjoy the delights in the form of delicious and varied dinners, order in the house, clean and ironed clothes, love and care of the lawful spouse. And you in the courtship lovers of his chosen one or only his gifts and compliments?
Direction of output
There are only two ways out of this situation: First: a woman takes changes with her husband and learns to live with them. Do not saw him, pick dirty socks around him across the apartment, delight in a diverse menu. The second option: if the wife does not like such fresh relations, she can keep her husband in good shape (in the good sense of this word). A woman is quite capable of making a man conquer himself again and again. For this, there is no need to do anything supernatural. Be attentive, go to the cinema, to the cafe, to the concerts of your favorite performers, meet with friends and take them at home. Men by nature are hunters and owners. If he sees that a woman is eluding him, he finds an occupation outside the family, he will necessarily want to win it again. But in this case, the woman will have no time to relax. I'll have to forget about the appearance of the forensic couple in curlers and masks, in a shapeless faded dressing gown. Be sure to have a manicure, make-up, hairstyle, well-groomed appearance. It is necessary to let the person understand that you will continue to look good. A man-hunter will understand that other members of the stronger sex may also look at his woman. He will do everything to keep her near him. A man will certainly show signs of attention to his woman.
However, there is one danger - a man by nature is not a hunter. What to do, there are also such. In this case, the greater the likelihood that instead of re-conquering a legitimate spouse, a man can simply walk away. And not necessarily that to another woman.
Another problem that a woman watches after a wedding, is formulated as follows: "he is always silent." Before the wedding, the lovers shared all their experiences, during the meetings they told each other about how the day passed, what was important or interesting about them. Now he comes home from work and asks to be left alone. He lies down on the sofa, watches TV, and his wife's attempts to find out what's interesting with him happened today, does not pay any attention. If it is offensive, he gets angry. What to do in this case? Psychologists say that men suffer stress much worse than women. Therefore, for most of them, staying for some time in silence is a vital necessity, and not a momentary lull. It is necessary to give the husband the opportunity to relax, and most at this time, get lost in the favorite business or meet with a friend. Separate pastime is sometimes useful to both spouses. It will help to disperse, relax from each other, and then with new strength to start building and strengthening a family nest.
Weekday family relations
The man is changing, because his role in your life has changed. Now he is concerned about such issues as well-being, career, raising the family's welfare. And if the family plans to have a baby? Then the man becomes the only breadwinner and breadwinner. And expenses do not decrease, atolko increase. A man expects moral support from his wife, and only prinej he can show his weakness and fatigue, only with her can be unshaven and disheveled ...
Building relationships between people does not end after the wedding. They reach a new qualitative level. Before marriage, young people, if they did not live together, had their own interests, their social circle, their own life space. At the very beginning of a joint life, it is necessary to build mutual relations so as not to infringe upon the rights and freedoms of your second half, but to complement the interests and passions of one another; Do not pressure your spouse with your desires and wants, but be able to rest from time to time separately. This will help to understand how important the second half is for you, how nice it is to be together and how nice it is sometimes to just be silent together. How well you will understand each other after the wedding, depends only on you two. From this moment your task is not to look at each other, but in one direction. It is impossible to call all worries and problems only on one of the spouses. In family life there is always a place for holidays for two, but what they will be and whether they will be at all depends on both of them.