Is there a need for a break in the relationship? Of course, if you approach the issue with all seriousness, you can quickly guess that a decision by your partner to take a "time out" can be quite alarming and even a frightening signal. One should not think that such a decision will be extremely painful and at times even agonizingly perceived only from the female side. Male pride and pride will be hurt so much that a representative of the stronger sex can for a long time be discouraged and depressed.
However, the decision to take a break is practiced quite often, both bilaterally and unilaterally, and can act as a test, test, indicator, and sometimes even a cementing factor of your relationships.
First of all, when such a problem hangs in the air, do we begin to wonder what triggered the cause? In what could be the reason for such half measures as a temporary rest from each other?
According to psychologists and sexologists, the foundation for strong and lasting relationships is precisely a certain community at the psychological and sometimes unconscious level. In other words, it is that set of common interests, views of tastes and other socio-psychological factors that form a strong and stable emotional attachment that keeps people together for years. At the first stage of the relationship, which lasts a maximum of two or three years, people may experience passion and attraction for each other, but when, so to speak, physiology will subside, what will remain the factor holding people together? If the animal's craving and say, great sex were the foundation of the relationship, then after a certain period serious problems will begin and the couple may even end up with a break. Or there is a way to test your feelings and the true essence of your relationship, arranging a break in the relationship.
First of all, you have to think about what the reason for this half-measure is, take a break, and not break the relationship completely. Perhaps, it is in the absence of this very internal connection that the reason lies? Another more disturbing reason may be the intervention of a third party, in a situation where your second half has found a "more suitable" option for him. Here, the only and most optimal solution is the gap, since by doing this one time, you can safely expect and repeat acts and bouts of uncertainty about your compatibility. Speaking of compatibility. It is possible that most of your problems are caused by excessively overstated requirements. The fact is that most people in their lives have experience of joint relations with no more than 3-4 people. And accordingly, the less such an experience, the more overstated requirements in relation to a partner. As a result, disappointment arises due to a lack of conformity to one's ideal. Idealizing what "should" be you, your partner and your relationships, you inevitably get yourself into a dead end, as, as you know, nothing is perfect in life. That is why in this case, a break in the relationship will not solve anything and the problems in this regard as they were, they will remain. Thus, we see that the break in the relationship is essentially a half-measure, and not always it will be able to solve, and in simple terms "patch up" your problems, and even on the contrary, to expose them even more.
If, however, there was a need for a break in the relationship, then the question arises: "For how long should this pause be arranged, and how long should it last? ". In this context, the phrase of Frederick Begbeder is recalled, which sounds like this: - If after a whole day you have not got bored with your second half, then you do not love each other, because otherwise you would have had two minutes to get off crazy about the severity of separation. " Of course, the maximalism of this statement has nothing to do with real life, especially since we are talking about a crucial and disturbing phase of your relationship, characterized by uncertainty and doubt. Of course, the period of temporary separation should give both of you the opportunity to think carefully, weigh and, so to speak, comprehend the past, looking back. One of the most mysterious phenomena of human psychology is that we most appreciate what we lose. In this case, a temporary break is a kind of loss, which in case your love is faded from the raid of everyday life, will give you an excuse to look at each other again, as at the very beginning of your relationship. And in order to fully realize this loss is not enough one or two days. But on the other hand, an excessively long pause can result in parting, when the whirlwind of our life just takes you to different shores. It is for these reasons that psychologists specializing and advising the relationship of problem pairs advise an optimal term of one month. On the one hand, the term is more than enough to reflect on and realize some things you forgot that attached tenderness and love to your connection. On the other hand, it will help you emotionally recharge, and even look at your new soul in a new way, seeing those positive aspects and qualities that you hitherto did not notice because of the soapy eye. And, of course, re-breathe and feel the power of that emotional connection that poets of all time called love. And that's why before you decide on such a risky measure as a break in the relationship for a month, both of you should think carefully. Is it worth it?
In any case, as a result of this optimal term, three situations may arise. In the first case, separation will allow you to understand and appreciate what you have not seen and appreciated before, and again fall in love for what you already loved him for once. In the second case, the relationship will end in separation, when a temporary loss will give both of you to understand and understand the need for a permanent loss. In the third case, such a measure as a temporary pause will be just a pacifier, and once again you will feel the same problems as before parting. In this case, you need to both think for yourself or contact a relationship specialist to find out and see the reasons that break the idyll on your love ship.
Do we need a break in a relationship for a month in order to love each other again, or to fall out of love? In this matter, the best counselor will be your heart.