Perhaps not all women are asking the question: close people are leaving for the army - how can this be experienced? Some ladies can quietly let go even the most native people. This does not mean that people are not dear to them. It's just that such women seem to abstract themselves from this, try not to think about the fact that a close male is not around. But not everyone can survive care with such ease. Some ladies think that it is easier for them to go into the army themselves than to let go of their native person. How can they convince themselves that if a man goes into the army, this is not the end of the world.
First, you never need to show the guy who is going to serve, how bad you are. Of course, to completely contain emotions, too, will not work. But, one thing, when you once allow yourself to cry on his shoulder. And quite another, when you constantly tell him about how terrible you are, how you do not want to live without him and at the same time, you cry all the time. Remember that your friend, boyfriend or brother is not at all easy either. He simply understands that nothing can be changed and tries to keep himself in hand. And the fact that you constantly roll up hysterics and experience, spoils his nerves and upsets him. Of course, he understands that you are not easy and will also be bored. And believe me, he will be much harder and worse than you. Just your future military will not have as much free time as you to cry over photos and remember every little thing. So try to keep yourself in hand and, first of all, support it.
But if you even find the strength to hold back, when your close person is around, how not to fall into depression after he goes to pay homage to the Motherland.
So, in the first place, do not allow yourself to succumb to nostalgia. The more you listen to your favorite songs, watch movies and take a walk there, where you often liked to go, the worse you will be. Understand that, in the end, no one has died and it's only for one year. Of course, it's hard and bad without the support of a native person, but this is by far not the worst thing that could happen to you. Try to think optimistically and to think that your boyfriend (friend, brother) would not want you to practically destroy yourself, yearning. Remember that once, back in the nineteenth century, the army was taken for twenty-five years. That was really scary. Women of those times could still be understood. And the main thing is not to limp and do something useful.
Of course, we all heard about what is happening in the modern army and fantasy draws us the most horrible pictures. You never need to get hung up on this. In the end, if you constantly think about the bad, then it happens, but if you are tuning in for a positive - it all ends well. Your native man, after all, is not a fool and will be able to navigate under the prevailing conditions. Do not underestimate his abilities and assume that he will certainly do something wrong, which will lead to terrible consequences.
Every year hundreds of thousands of young people pass through the army, and only a few really complain about what is happening. Therefore, you do not need to adjust yourself, and even more so, to adjust the future employee to the fact that something will necessarily happen to him.
During the service, you can call up from time to time, so you will not be so hard without a native person. The main thing is to survive the first months, when, most likely, the opportunity to communicate normally it will not. Then, when he starts to call you, keep yourself in hand and not whack. Of course, you can say that you are bored, and you do not have it, but you do not need to roll up the hysterics again. Understand that he wants to hear native voices, to receive a portion of positive and energy, in order to have the strength to carry the service further. And if you bring him one frustration and a negative, then maybe it will happen that the guy does not call you at all. Therefore, always control your emotions and do not allow yourself to put your own feelings above strangers.
When your close person will serve, you do not need to close from the whole world and become a recluse. So you will only get worse. Communicate with your friends, have fun, travel, rest. You should not sacrifice yourself, arguing about this with the following phrases: if he can not spend time properly, then I will give up everything from a sense of solidarity. A normal person will never appreciate such sacrifices and will consider them stupid on your part. Therefore, behave adequately and do not go to extremes. Do not need to keep calendars and strike out days. So you just focus on the fact that the native person is not around. It's best not to think about time and just live. Do your own business, get involved in something new, get to know people. If you do this, then this year will be much easier and easier than you thought. Of course, at first it will not be very easy for you, but in time you will learn to treat philosophically what is happening and stop focusing on the fact that there is not a person near whom you love and whom you value.
And when he comes back - that's when you can cry as much as you want, because these tears will not cause him pain and suffering, but only show how much he is loved and waiting.