Is darling a liar? "Someone promised to call on Saturday, at one o'clock in the afternoon. It's already Sunday, half past four ... "- the girl in love with the windy chevalier is reproached. "For a whole year I promised to take the child to the museum, but instead you go with him to foolish matches!" - this is a dissatisfied husband. He promised ... Oh, why did not he promise! Change the tile in the bathroom, buy a ticket for the ballet, invite relatives to a fish restaurant, pay a tour to Mallorca, shave off your beard for the Eighth Marta and never again swear at the wheel. What is more faithful to the word or empty promises? Sometimes it seems that men only do what they give empty promises. Where is their faithfulness to the word? Why are they such liars? Yes, because we, when we were children, periodically swore to my mother that we will not go out without a hat, laugh with chewing gum in our mouths, and on the weekend we will certainly put things in order in our room. Just so promised, they made empty promises to fall behind. So, all people are deceivers by nature?
To calm our late awakening conscience with you, or maybe to save someone's loved one from violence, we will cite the following scientific fact. Psychologists have found that our loyalty to the word (or habit of happily forgetting it) is associated with self-esteem. But ... not as straight as it might seem. That is absolutely not the fact that if a person respects himself, he will blood from the nose fulfill all his promises. Such hyperoperability is typical for people who are extremely insecure. Expanding into a flat cake to keep the word, they are filled with self-esteem, which they so lack, without thinking, but whether all this is really necessary for anyone. By the way, such "heroes" react very painfully to all kinds of non-mandatoryness. Even the phrase "We'll call somehow for the weekend" you said out of courtesy may cause a person to check day and night whether there were any missed calls on the mobile. And then, making sure that you have not appeared, he will be terribly offended ... In general, we must keep our word and promises, because they expect us to fulfill them, words to the wind, try not to leave. You must make a choice of loyalty to a word or empty promises. Only very difficult it sometimes turns out not to give empty promises ...
From the head flew ... That's because the memory is leaky! Once again, I promised my neighbor to bring a self-taught disk on hatha yoga. He does not need you, you will not be engaged anyway, but your neighbor is addicted. Shame on you? Yes and no. On the one hand, promises must be fulfilled, on the other - you really forgot completely ... "Forgetfulness is not always connected with such blameworthy qualities as irresponsibility or disrespect for people," says the psychologist. - Often such failures are explained by the work of one of the mechanisms of psychological defense, namely, displacement. Still Sigmund Freud noticed that with the help of displacement our psyche protects itself from unpleasant emotions. On a conscious level, we can not attach any special significance to some events, but the subconscious fixes all this, erasing from memory the deeds that we really do not want to fulfill. "
If you always forget about the requests of someone, then it's worth thinking about why you have this "memory disorder"? Maybe the girlfriend begging for gifts without end, never giving anything in return, and you are annoyed by the consumer attitude. And let's say, your beloved mother-in-law, whom you constantly "feed breakfast", is too fickle in your desires. So you apply to it the good old army air defense principle - wait to carry it out, cancel it! Or you're just giving someone a promise, you can not hold back. In this case, in order to hold back the word, one should be made known to the person as early as possible, and at the same time ... forgive the male deceivers. By their mental arrangement, they are no different from us, honestly!