How to recognize lies and what to do when you are deceived

Resentment, confusion, anger, resentment, anxiety - all these feelings we experience when we find out that the interlocutor is deceiving us. It is unlikely that someone will want to experience such emotions again. It is better to learn to recognize the lie immediately, then there will be less disappointments. But how do you know if a person is lying or telling the truth? It turns out that even without a lie detector, you can determine when you are being tricked. After all, the human body itself gives certain signals in the situation when it lies. Recognize the lie of human behavior
It's strange that all people at least occasionally lie. It is very difficult to do this. When we say untruth, our creation has to control the subconscious, and the organism, having entered into such a contradiction, simply does not know how to behave. Imagine that you are walking down the street. Go the usual step and look around. What is the probability that you will have trouble walking, that you will forget how to do this and start to lose yourself? Yes, no - this action is spontaneous and regulated by the subconscious. But if you think about how to go, look after yourself ("So, I lift first the left foot, then the right one .I lift about 10 cm from the ground ..."), then you will surely go astray. You will start to slow down, unnaturally look down, and on your face will appear a strange expression that is not characteristic of you. Approximately the same thing happens when we time. A person controls every word, thinks before speaking it, and ... betrays itself. There is tension in the body and even stronger in the throat and near the mouth. Wishing to cope with this, we unconsciously touch the neck, rubbing the corners of the lips and generally touching the face more often. The speech becomes monotonous - to contain the excitement, we are forced to slow it down. Often we take our eyes off, or we may not look at the interlocutor at all, pretending to be interested in considering an object of interest to us, we perform stereotypical actions (for example, turn the pen, turn the notepad) and try to speak very clearly - to be out of suspicion. In addition, sweating increases (as in the situation of any excitement and fear) and the pupils dilate. The lie detectors are based on the perception of all these changes in the body - they show which question caused tension and how much it is expressed.

Recognize the lie with the help of intuition
But women do not need any detectors. We ourselves have the ability to recognize truth and lies. The woman is not what the words say, by the position of the back, by the breath, by the way the key in the lock turned, can understand the situation. "You looked twice at the window, when you answered my question, then scratched your nose, talking about your affairs, then somehow dismissively dropped the telephone receiver ... So, you're lying to me!" No, of course, in this form, no one expresses their suspicions. Most of us say: "I feel that this is not so (something happened)." And this "I feel" is the strongest argument. Women really have the ability to recognize a huge number of emotions, discover them and unconsciously compare. Especially when it comes to the same person. These talents are innate: so nature has taken care of the fact that a woman, as a physically weak being, creates her own and her children's safety conditions. It is not enough for us to choose a worthy person who will take care of his offspring, it is important to keep him. Hence, it is necessary to anticipate in advance all the potential opportunities for his care and responsive to them. If the wife says "I feel that my husband has a hobby on the side", so it is. Even if the spouse every day at six o'clock in the evening is already at home and regularly gives her bouquets. True, often this intuition brings frustration - what you know does not mean that it can be changed.

Professional liars
And what about swindlers and marriage swindlers? After all, they find their victims among women too. First, such people know who to choose, and are able to work with the victim's emotions. They give her what she needs at the moment. Tired from the routine life of a business woman, leaving all her strength on responsible work, is a perfect object for a romantic swindler. He will surround her with such attention and care that she will feel Assol, who waited for the same ship with scarlet sails. And by the way, even having found out that she was deceived, she will still keep pleasant memories of several fabulous weeks or months spent with the unsuccessful bridegroom. Secondly, many people specifically learn to lie so that it looks convincing. They hone their every gesture, every word, and in the end, achieve mastery. We cry over the fate of the heroine of the film, and in fact actors, by and large, also lie. Thirdly, there are individuals who so get used to lies, that for them it becomes truthful. For example, demonstrative and exalted people coming up with a story, they are so carried away by it that they themselves forget that there really was nothing of the kind. Naturally, it is impossible to recognize their deception.

How to resist lies?
What to do if you are confronted with a lie? There is no one true recipe, how to avoid it and how to behave in such a situation. As there is no one single reason why people lie. There is a lie - an exaggeration to present the situation in a better light. There is a lie to avoid unpleasant conversation and explanations. There is a lie through which we can raise our self-esteem. And sometimes a person is lying to receive basic help and understanding.

If you meet with lies all the time, and this spoils your relationship, then first think - why does this happen? What does a loved one receive from what he tells you is not true? Perhaps it's all about excessive rigor on your part, intolerance of shortcomings, and he's just trying to get away from any punishment or open conflicts?

Do not make claims at once, if possible avoid the words "you lie" and so on. Just ask the interlocutor what you wanted to know and look at the reaction. You can ask "Did something happen?", As if letting know that you are worried and worried about what is happening. Not knowing what the deception is, it is still subtle to let the opponent know that you feel it. If he appreciates you, then maybe he will think. "Something is somehow uncomfortable for me." Our relationship is not the same as before "- this phrase is quite suitable for both personal and business relations.

If parting is not part of your plans, and frank talk can hurt you, try to fence off the situation. Just say to yourself: "Yes, my husband is lying to me. I do not know how long this will last, but so far it is so."

People who lie for some specific purpose are sure that you do not suspect anything. To spoil them this feeling is possible with the help of the view "I know everything, but I have my own plan." This will save you from a feeling of dependence and gives strength. And the situation itself thanks to such tactics can turn in your favor.