Replenishment in the family - it's always stress, which does not pass the nimamu, nor the pope. But one thing mom, who for 9 months felt the movement of the baby, got used to it, studied special literature and daily conversations with him and quite another - the dad, who occasionally touched the rounded tummy, having spilled with him a couple of phrases. Dad just did not count his strength. And this is normal, conclusions to do early.
Fear of doing something wrong
Faced with this situation, do not rush to blame the father for being irresponsible, infantile and unable to keep his word. Most likely, baby for a man really coveted. The problem is that young daddies need more time to get used to the child. Crying, constantly demanding attention, tremendous responsibility, suddenly falling down, will be reduced from insensitivity, this must be understood. However, the main reason why men can run a child is the fear of making a mistake. Afraid to offend such a fragile creature with tiny handles and legs, the young father keeps at a distance. As nikruti, the woman is emotionally and psychologically more prepared for the appearance of the child - the maternal instinct makes itself felt. The father is also experiencing gamuts, which you can help him to cope with.
How to make friends with them
The main mistake that mom makes in these situations: offended, isolate the child and father from each other. Such a ban on obschenieene is beneficial to neither the baby nor the dad. The more you encourage a man to be closer to the child, the faster they will "make friends". It is not necessary to ask the father to change the diaper or to lull the baby. To begin, include it in your dialogue, pay attention to the baby's attention to his father, call the man to support the child. Soon he will begin to show activity, feeling that you are extorting to him.
"You are doing everything wrong"
If you want to completely dislodge your husband from the cradle of a child, tell him boldly and straightforwardly that he does not cope with his duties. Young dad can be awkward at first, but do not rush to make sharp remarks and threaten never to give the baby in his arms. Calmly clearly tell and show how to hold the head, feed from a bottle, change the knee and kiss, so as not to scratch the baby's thick beard.
The child needs both
It is a mistake to believe that the mother is more important to the newborn than the pop. The child has distinguished your voices for a long time now, and now learns to recognize faces. Of course, he sees his mother more often, that's why he gets used to it faster. The earlier in his life the face of the pope appears, his voice and touch, the easier it will be between the father and the child to have friendly and warm relations in the future.
If the friendship of the pope and the child is not in a hurry to develop, do not become unchaste. Perhaps your dad needs more time to find the baby a common language. Be a mediator in their interaction, and things will go faster.