We can not always find the strength to fight, but we must, we simply must. In this article we want to discuss with you a fairly common problem of the present and understand why children run away from home. This happens quite often. You can not disagree with us that in every newspaper, in many television programs, there are a couple of ads screaming and crying for help when the child is gone, and the parents are off their feet searching for it. What is the reason? What led to such a tragedy, why is this happening? Is there any pattern in all that is happening? And, mind you, it is not at all necessary that this happens in dysfunctional families, where parents drink. No, not at all. Often quite the contrary, a good secured family, seemingly caring parents, and suddenly ... A child fled. Why? From what? Was it possible to prevent this tragedy in advance? What did we do wrong? What is our mistake? How to return our children? Are we so bad, are they so bad with us? We do everything for them. But, nevertheless, perhaps it's all in vain, because we can not know exactly what our children want. This is a very difficult question, and to get an answer to it - you need to do a lot. You should know your child very well, but the child should not know that you know about it. But this is not entirely correct, and therefore ...
In fact, the reason that children run away from home is one. This is a misunderstanding in the family. It seems to parents that they are doing everything that is necessary for their child, the child is fed, dressed in the latest fashion, is studying at a prestigious school or a lyceum. The house is filled with a variety of modern appliances: home theater, VCR, telephone, smartphone, computer, laptop, a third of the products from the neighboring supermarket moved to the refrigerator, what else do you need? Do you agree? Parents are sure that children have everything they need for a happy and carefree life. But they, parents, do not even realize that children lack basic, but the most important. And what is this? Parental attention. It is known that human communication can not be replaced by any material values. You can not pay off from the child no expensive gifts, surprises or toys. While the children are small, they gladly tell their mom and dad their own, as long as children's secrets, share their, they think, insoluble problems. They so need the warm maternal word of support and understanding, need a sense of security, they must be sure that in any situation at home they will be listened to, their decision will be supported by the closest and dearest to them people, from their parents. But real problems and difficulties await them ahead.
What can we do to ensure that our children do not run away from home? Is it really so difficult, maybe we need some modern psychology courses or something like that, the help of specialists. In our opinion, the solution to this problem simply lies on the surface itself, and there is no problem at all. We just spend too much time at work and pay very little attention to our children. Mom, who must always be close to the first years of the child's life, are in a hurry to get out, are in a hurry to not miss the time, are hurrying to make their career, leaving their own crumbs with grandmothers (at best) and nannies who simply can not replace the mother's mother . While the baby is still small, it is enough to feed and entertain him, here he is already a teenager. It is in this period and it is necessary to surround him with attention, love, care. He must feel it all the time. Every minute. He must constantly feel the support from your side, it is very important, and you need to take care of it properly, otherwise ..., then it will still come to you.
Remember when you last spoke with your child. What questions do you ask him when coming home in the evening? What do you know about him, about his life? It can be argued that, at best, you limit yourself to simple ones: Did you eat? What did you get at school? Lessons learned? I washed the dishes? In the room cleaned? Or another couple of trivial questions. Probably, each of us knows more about what happened during the day in the world than about what happened this day with our child. What is he thinking about? , what worries him? , what questions are his concern? , with whom is he friendly? , with whom did you quarrel? , with whom he made friends? , what kind of music does he like? , what book did he read recently? , what movie looked? , what are his plans for the next few days? Do you notice his bad mood, do you know the reasons for such changes? Are you trying to talk, discuss, offer your help? And it is very important, if you spend time together. When you walked together in the park, did you go to the cinema for his favorite film, did you discuss the book you liked? Do you know who your child is in love with? Can he trust you with his secret? Or maybe the only one he can trust is his diary? And is he your heir? Why are we often so indifferent to those who are really the most expensive for us in the world? Why let the process of educating children on its own accord. And only when the children run away, and they escape not from home, but from us, such indifferent to them, we begin to rush, tear hair on the head. Honor, swearing not for what we did, but for not doing it, for not being close to our children. We would very much like parents to think about this before their children fled. In our opinion, everything is very simple, let your family have a good habit of discussing everything that happened during the day. Share your problems with your loved ones, listen to your children, do not think that their problems are less important, try to understand them, take everything you hear, very seriously, otherwise the next time your child simply does not want to tell that his worries and worries.