Hyperopeka
Young parents most often sin this. A newborn child, especially coveted and long-awaited, causes a storm of new emotions, parents feel a serious responsibility for the baby and begin to over-patronize him. Of course, the desire of parents to prevent any trouble, to anticipate every desire of the child, to protect him from pain, it is understandable. But sometimes it passes all reasonable boundaries. Often a hyperopeak is not expressed in immeasurable love for a child, but in the aspiration of the parents to leave him no chance of independence. It would seem that nothing terrible is that the baby is so well taken care of, but in fact. such care does not allow the child to learn anything. Parents feed him from a spoon, dress and tie his shoelaces, even if the "baby" has long been time to go to school. Such children are rarely allowed to take pleasure in the yard without strict supervision of elders, they can not start animals, all that is considered to be potentially dangerous by parents is excluded from their life, and such things can be found if desired. Parental errors in this regard in the fate of the child threaten to result in the fact that the adored child will grow up infantile and completely unadapted to real life.
Neglect
Parental errors are manifold, but one of the most serious is the neglect of one's own child. The reasons for this can be as much as necessary - parents are too busy at work, arrange their personal lives, misunderstandings between children and parents. Sometimes the reason why a child is left without proper attention can be a banal drunkenness of parents, and sometimes even heavy births, whose memories do not allow the mother to show her love completely. A child who grows up in such a family can seriously lag behind in development, but besides this, mental disturbances are often observed, because the kid feels unnecessary, he feels himself to be superfluous in the life of the closest people. Sometimes disregard is expressed in complete indifference in the fate of the child, sometimes only in frequent cries of "I have no time" or "do not bother," but it always does serious harm.
Unjustified hopes
Another common mistake parents - the expectation of his child too much. Often parents or other close relatives of the child perceive the baby as the last chance to realize their ambitions. My mother dreamed of becoming a ballerina, my father wanted to conquer the cosmos, my grandmother dreamed of music, and the child, who is seen as a genius, is blown away for all this. The risk of this attitude is that the child's wishes often do not coincide with the expectations of the parents, he does everything out of the way, which means that it is not so ingenious as the parents would like. And this leads to the fact that parents stop considering their child as clever, unique and talented only because he does not succeed in the area in which they would like. This leads to a weakening of ties and frequent quarrels, many complexes and big problems within the family and each of its members.
Cruelty
Perhaps, only this mistake has no justification. There may be many reasons for ill-treatment of a child, but none of them has anything to do with the child. Too strict punishment and physical violence are always the fault of adults. Sometimes parents are too authoritarian in relation to the child, they just do not perceive his personality and his opinion, and do not think that such behavior is cruel. Aggressiveness and cruelty educate the child in a habit of treating himself and others only in this way, which means that there is a high probability that another tyrant will emerge from such a family. In addition, there is hardly any need to repeat that child abuse is extremely dangerous and for parents themselves - as a rule, they grow up, children do not forget their parents' mistakes and consider it their duty to avenge them. This can be expressed both in complete disregard, and in reciprocal violence. About happiness in these families is not a question.
Of course, parental errors can be different. We can do wrong, not pedagogically, but the first duty of parents to remember that their actions should in no case harm the baby. Only with a responsible and reasonable approach to education, the family can become happy.