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Parting with her husband, how to survive the divorce? Your family boat crashed, crashed about life? It's hard, but you have to try to get out and not get depressed! Read the tips in our today's article!
Stop counting yourself guilty! In the fact that you could not keep the family, usually both partners are to blame. In the end, there are situations and circumstances that you could not foresee, change, or avoid at all. Take the gap for granted. And remember the main thing: no one has the right to criticize you and blame you for being a bad wife or an inattentive friend, running a house, not interested in husband's affairs, etc. In this case, it's best to calmly and with dignity say that you do not want to talk on this topic at all, or with this person specifically.
Fight with depression! First, and most important, a bell from depression: when it happens so bad that you do not want to leave the house, watch yourself, do make-up, eat, comb your hair and just smile becomes a problem. So, we must force ourselves to get up, wash, dress, brush our hair, make up and go out to people: to visit, to the theater, to the cinema. If possible, then arrange yourself an easy shopping: buy a dress that did not dare to buy during the marriage, please yourself with a new scent of toilet water. If you do not want to see anyone, go to the park. The main thing is to occupy yourself with something, not to focus on your problem and not to torment the pillow with tears.
Do not be afraid to discuss your problems! Only it is not necessary to talk about troubles with all the friends. It's enough for two or three people, such as mom or best friend. Try to talk and see that you immediately felt better.
Accept the support of people around you: colleagues at work, friends, relatives. It can not be that everyone condemns you, laughed or rejoiced at your pain. Certainly there are people who in a difficult period of your life will want to help. Someone will invite you to visit, on his birthday, offer a trip outside the city, to the country. With pleasure, accept these invitations, as new pleasant impressions are what you need now.
Take away everything that reminds you of the past! Hide away albums with photos, souvenirs from your ex-husband and other items that can remind you of him. Just do not throw it away! After a few years, when your pain subsides, you will be pleased to review photos again, to recall the past.
Do not listen to detractors who seek to inform you about the latest events in the life of someone else's already alien to you. Indifferent to explain to them that you are not interested.
Do not hurry to enter into a new relationship! Of course, I want to take revenge on my ex, show that he is not the only one in the world and other men pay attention to you. But after the divorce, time must pass. If you are rushing headlong into a new romance, then most likely you will choose the man of the psychological type to which your ex-husband belonged, because subconsciously you are not yet ready for a new relationship.
Do nothing for evil and harm to your former and, especially, his new passion! Making mistakes in this period is easy, but it will not be easier for you. Pass by with your head held high and do not pay attention to them.
You have a new stage in your life. It will be better if it is associated with new useful and pleasant habits and traditions. Start going to the pool or fitness, sign up for some courses. As often as possible, meet with friends. Pleasant chatter distracts from problems, just do not remember about it. This topic is closed! Prohibit yourself to pronounce the phrases: "Last year at this time went to nature, planned a vacation," "This dress, his hair was especially liked by him," "I'm used to cooking this and that, it's his favorite dishes." Live the present and the future, not the past.
If you have common children, then do not tune them against your dad. It is impossible to criticize children in a conversation with a friend, to blame something. We need to calmly explain to them everything, to say that our father loves them and will never give up. Do not need to hurt the psyche of children, they are not to blame for your break.
To survive the divorce, treat it as an opportunity to assess your relationships with people, take into account your mistakes and in the future not to admit them.