The first thing you need to pay attention to your health. Usually sexual desire disappears, if a woman has something wrong with the reproductive system, because while she gets unpleasant pain during sex. You need to be tested for various inflammatory diseases and bacterial infections. Cysts, inflammation of the appendages, chlamydia, thrush are not the best companions for making love. To begin with, you need to undergo a course of treatment, and then the sexual desire will return.
A woman loses sexual desire in certain cycles of pregnancy, and after the birth of a child. During pregnancy, the lack of desire to have sex is due to a change in the hormonal background, and in the last trimester - the desire to protect the future child. A woman who has given birth needs a rest. Her body is restored after childbirth, and often she never thinks about sex, so her life changes significantly with the appearance of the child. At this time, a man should treat his wife with understanding and do not insist on intimacy.
Sex after an abortion - also not the most desired for a woman, because sometimes a woman who has suffered an abortion is repelled by the very appearance of a man. After an abortion for a while, it is not recommended to have sexual intercourse, so that complications of the transferred "operation" do not arise.
If you take any medication, then your sexual desire may be significantly reduced, and sometimes quite a chasm. In particular, it concerns antidepressants, sedatives.
Analyze the reason that you became "cold" in sex. Perhaps you are tired, maybe you still can not get enough sleep. Then you need to rest, take a weekend.
Of course, it also happens that your health is fine, but you still do not want to have sex. Think about your partner then. There must be reasons why your passion for him faded away. Perhaps you chose him not with your heart, but with your head. For example, you with him calmly and reliably, but sex with him does not suit you. In such cases, it is better to understand your relationship immediately. If you absolutely do not want to go to bed with this man, it's better to tell him about it, but if the reliability that he gives you is more important to you, then you will have to be satisfied with the sexual life that you have. In your power to do everything possible to your sex life has become more diverse and fuller.
It happens that you are not confused by a man with whom you have sex, but the place where your intimate meetings take place. Having sex all the time in the same place is terribly boring. If you have not tried to have sex, except your own bed, then you have lost a lot. Start studying your apartment. Kitchen, bathroom - great places for sex. If you do not have such an opportunity, for example, when you live not alone, you can rent a hotel room at night - arrange an evening of sexual pleasures. This will not only lead you, but also your partner. In extreme cases, change the situation of your bedroom. If your bed is small and creaking, change it. Pleasure is worth it. Nothing refreshes sexual relations, like new sheets. Get sexy bed linens.
Sometimes the lack of desire is caused by the fact that both partners spend a lot of time together, get tired of each other, and at night turn away and fall asleep. Try to spend less together. At night you will not be so indifferent to each other.
Maybe you lost your sexual desire because you are unhappy with your appearance. I must say that it is very important for a woman. When she is embarrassed by her body, she always thinks that she will not like her partner, this leads to the fact that she has a sexual mood and she has sex mechanically, thinking about whether she looks good or bad. Remember, a loving man rarely sees the flaws of his beloved. Being engaged in sex, the man perceives your whole image entirely, and does not consider your fat folds or wrinkles on the face. But to enhance your sexuality and self-confidence, it's worth taking care of your appearance. If you are worried about problems with the figure, go in for fitness or dancing. The better your body looks, the sexier you will feel, and the better your sex will be.
The main principle of sex is more variety. Nothing so oppresses as monotony in intimate life. Now there is a mass of literature in free access on how to have sex with health benefits, as well as how to diversify their sexual relationships. After all, if you have sex on certain days of the week in the same position, you will involuntarily lose sexual desire. Try to engage in spontaneous sex, seduce your partner. By the way, the process of seduction is very exciting for you.
Remember the principle "the more you sleep, the more you want." Regular sex is good for women's health, and is itself a stimulant of sexual desire.