How to make so that the beloved and desired child had a full-fledged happy family together with both parents? So that he never learned what a "divorce" is?
The work is tremendous, but the most important is to try to understand each other, work out lines of conduct in unaccustomed and new conditions of life, learn how to express their statements and claims in a correct, polite and understandable form. Overcoming the psychological problems of the young family will be accompanied with the acquisition and development of skills and experience in caring for the child. In such a matter of rehearsals, no one will give, the role of parents and success in family relations should be immediately and completely.
In reality, it is difficult for young mothers and fathers to restructure themselves psychologically: if a child was born healthy, then care for him is not complicated. The first weeks literally fly in the accompaniment of turmoil and confusion, and only then everything falls into place if the young mother wants and makes an effort then easily adapt to the new way of life commanded by the commander - the youngest member of the family.
Postpartum depression is behind, but it's bad that the young mother is paying less and less attention to her soul mate. The reason is not only in sex, lack of attention, the spouse has a sense of superfluity in the pair, where only mom and baby. It is commonly believed that a man is jealous of his new wife. But this is not jealousy, but perplexity. He absolutely does not understand why they are so happy when they crumble or croak, because all children do so, but they also sleep and eat. And this is completely normal. It is necessary to know that the perception and attitude of the pope to the child is not at all like that of the mother. And this is not a reason for resentment.
In this situation, it is better to delight your full diapers with a grandmother, she will understand and appreciate this. In a conversation with her husband, it is better to first ask about his work and affairs and only then start a conversation about his baby and his achievements for the day. Further, if you need help with the pope, you can ask him about it, but the request must be clearly formulated. A young father should normally treat and understand his wife's behavior, constant lisping, ecstasy, joy. Women have such a biology. If the attitude towards the newborn is dismissive and inattentive, the woman perceives this as a lack of love for her, feels indifference and callousness.
In fact, the young father is by no means indifferent, after the birth of the baby, he experiences the same psychological problems as his mother. The difficulty is that the man reaches everything himself, nature has deprived him of instinct, in exchange only brains. All the surrounding people constantly say that the young mother needs understanding and support, but do not forget about the Pope, he needs the same support that is often forgotten. After all, he too is going through a period of change, changing his everyday life to a new level of responsibility for the whole family, and sometimes it is much more difficult for him than for a woman.
A young mother must certainly find time for her rest, postpone all urgent matters, and there are such things, you just have to look closely, and then the husband's meeting from work will be filled with joy. The ideal option will be if the deferred business is moved to the evening, and while the mother is busy with the pope will have time to chat with the child.
After the birth of the baby, solving problems in sex occupies an important place in the family. Of course, during the day the young wife is exhausted and by evening she is already a surviving lemon, but nothing prevents her from telling her husband that he is the only one, desired and loved, to hug and kiss, instead of irritated repulsion. A husband should talk about his love for her as often as possible, that he thanks her for the gifted child. Frequent situations where the spouse is condescending to the betrayal of her husband, feeling, because she gives herself to the baby, and the "conjugal duty" simply does not have time and desire. But sooner or later betrayal will still destroy the marriage. In addition, the young mother will return to active life in society, and then the question is, will she want to "take revenge"?
Previously, the role of spouses was unchanged for many years, the older generation actively participated in the lives of young people, saturating their lives with endless advice and free assistance. There are no stereotypes of the past, now there can be a father on maternity leave, he can do her housework. And this will not surprise anyone.