First of all, try to calm down. It is very difficult. But it is necessary, in order to live on not dissolve in depression for a long time. There are many ways to put yourself in order. Go on a trip not for long, but let it be a place far from your memory. Meet new people. Eats what you yourself have promised for a long time, but in the worries about her husband all the time postponed for later. Do fitness, yoga. Learn the art of origami, but how little it is if only you are fascinated with this occupation.
It is not worthwhile on this occasion to arrange more than one consultation with girlfriends, where the agenda will be the question of how he dared a scoundrel, and what that other wife of a snake. Perhaps one-time order of these gatherings and can benefit, but becoming a kind of ritual such a time of conduct can harm both the situation and you personally. There is a chance to get stuck in the problem and your experiences. So we move away from this reality somewhat. And only when the indignation in the soul has subsided can one consider the matter as a whole.
Be ready to look at yourself, your life, your husband and his new woman from the outside. To appear many questions and to yourself the same. Try to yourself honestly answer them, do not be afraid no one will condemn you. You can recognize yourself as anything, but it's very difficult to condemn yourself so the female psyche is arranged. Based on the answers you can draw conclusions.
What makes you depressed more? That the husband is gone, or that the husband is with another woman. Or it is of great importance to which woman the husband left. So do you need to return to your life the one who preferred you to the other? So whether you were comfortable in your life. Do you remember if you ever dreamed of changing everything and starting all over again? If such thoughts were visited ... Excellent is an occasion for celebration. If not, then any incident should be taken as an excuse for working on yourself, for conclusions and correcting mistakes. Any experience eventually becomes a benefit. Whether it makes us stronger, kinder, tolerant or even bolder, and even more impudent if you want.
There is a danger of falling into self-righteousness. Do not take responsibility for the decisions of her husband. This in the end is not you decided to leave. This is his decision, and yes, if you want his right. It is not necessary to find out the relationship with your opponent, this is not to your advantage. Nothing you personally will not give such a talk. Another woman will never understand you, she is different, and the man is alone. The victorious rivals are quite cruel. This is the same purely feminine trait.
Do not give the opponent a pleasure, celebrate their victory. In men, such conversations cause great irritation because they do not see any sense in what is happening. And the justice will remain the initiator. if your marriage with your husband before the appearance of another woman, in your opinion was quite stable, well, it so happened that the weak male heart could not stand the onslaught of the insidious razluchnitsy. You should know more than a hundred times about your husband. About his habits, preferences. And if a man at least a bit doubts his choice, it means that it's too early to lower the sails and throw out the white flag.
Do not drive and thus help him in an already difficult choice. A man lives where he is more loved and appreciated. It's not difficult to tell him that your house is always open to him and the heart is the same. It's much easier to go back where you are expected, where you have already been forgiven for everything. For male pride does not allow a man to return guilty. Forgiven da.Proshchayte their beloved and love.