Only in the last couple of thousand years, people began to preach the idea of a monogamous marriage. For all these centuries, mankind has progressed poorly in the way of attempts to calm the violent polygamous nature of men. And the debate about whether the psychological characteristic of "monogamy" is given by nature or imposed by society does not abate so far. It seems that only women gave in to propaganda of family and marriage a little, because they really want to marry their beloved man, raise children together and die in one day. The idea of the monogamy of many women suits without any doubt, this is the reason that the psychological characteristics of the male and female positions in family relationships can not be called identical.
In nature, there are many species of animals - both very primitive and fairly developed - in which monogamy is a natural natural mechanism for the formation of pairs. Wolves, wavy parrots, swans, some species of geese can live with a single partner all their lives, and often keep him faithful even after his death. But even monogamous animals have such separate "copies" that can change their halves with other females. Females that contribute to the destruction of strong married couples, in geese, wolves and other animals studied by zoopsychologists, occupy the lowest hierarchy in the herd. Like humans, animals have an analogue of "double morality": a male can spit from his "wife", females do so much more forgiving.
People, of course, have gone far from animals in their development. But they also do not match the characteristics of the male and female positions in relation to family obligations. Women are usually more family-oriented, they can make it the only object of effort, they invest a lot of mental energy in search of a husband, and then in keeping him near themselves. The status of a married woman in society is much higher than the status of a divorced or single lady. As for men, they often do not need a marriage. And if they get married, they often consider the family an additional supplement to their achievements outside of it.
A huge number of family problems in couples is due to the fact that the female position in family relationships is often very vulnerable. A woman expects from a man the same thing that she is ready to bring into the family herself, and the man to this often is not at all ready. Sociologists are surprised each time, what are the true reasons for a man to marry. Many women can be disappointed if they learn that the main motivation for a man to create a family is an attempt to gain access to sex on demand with a woman he likes in his bed. This means that in order to preserve the family, the ability to cook borscht and wash the curtains is not the most important thing. Much more important is the ability of the wife to maintain in family relationships a sufficient level of passion and sensuality, indulging the man in the ways and with the frequency of which he dreams. And here there is no primitivism or simplified perception of marriage. Of course, men are also important motives such as the legitimate birth of heirs, a cozy home and a warm supper. Simply they are secondary, and in the life of a married man they are not at all the same place that women are assigned to.
Statistics show that men skillfully achieve their goals. Married men, even if they are true to their halves, have sex more often than bachelors. No matter how much the bachelor boasts of his victories on the love front, and in reality to drag a woman into bed he manages far less often than a married colleague. So it turns out that men achieve what they marry for - a stable and more intense sex life.
And what about women? Women are often disappointed with marriage after some time after the wedding. The psychological characteristics of the male and female positions in family relationships are different, and that the man is ready to pay a marriage for sex, and the woman is happy to offer the man sex for the sake of marriage. And if after the exchange of oaths of fidelity in the regional registry office the wife relaxes, ceases to pay enough attention to sex, and begins to pay excessive attention to other aspects of family life, it is often awaited by severe tests. The same polls show that no more than 20% of men are ready to consider their wife as their best friend. They will prefer her friend to their own sex, because they are not interested in learning the differences in thinking between a man and a woman, women's logic often irritates them or does not cause them to continue to communicate heart to heart. A husband can easily communicate with his wife only to household topics, and if they could talk until the night before marriage, then after the wedding, a woman is often disappointed that her husband does not want to talk to her.
You can treat such differences as you like: get angry, get divorced, choose loneliness, try to change the nature of a man or a woman. But the most constructive way for two different people to create a strong and happy family is to study the psychology of the opposite sex, to seek ways of understanding each other. A woman should carefully consider the sexual desires of the spouse. A husband should look for ways to communicate with his wife, even if he is tired and he has no time for chronically anything other than work. Only in this case the couple has a chance to achieve harmony in the relationship. And besides, do not forget that in our time, the conscious rejection of marriage does not shock anyone. So both a man and a woman can live alone with a clear conscience and without fear of condemnation on the part of society, and love is sought in passionate, successive novels. In the end, if there is a suitable person, family life is formed by itself, and will not necessarily be accompanied by a stamp in the passport.