It is impossible to lose self-control in the eyes of others. Irritation is worse than whining. Annoyed, you show everyone your inability to overcome a difficult situation, do not know how to take matters into their own hands and improve the situation. But you just have to calm down, counting to 10, and evaluate the problem. Do not expect from the world of justice. Our life is an unjust thing. It is necessary to find a way of rule, put out by life, to use effectively. We really do not like routine in life, and after all it is the basis for our accomplishments.
How to take matters into their own hands, what other ways are there? You have to be able to curb your desires. For example, we know that a lot of sweet is harmful to our health and therefore must limit ourselves to this. All at once is the approach of the child. And we must understand that we must be able to wait, plan and, on the way to achieving the goal, to deny ourselves something. You think that you can not save up for something. But you just have to try to save a little from each salary and you will be surprised by the result.
Optimists believe that with any blows of fate, with a difficult situation, we receive certain gifts from life. Therefore, one can not perceive a difficult situation as a tragedy. Our fear of the problem paralyzes the brain. And this does not give an adequate assessment of the situation. Therefore, in any situation, the main thing is to calm down, relax, and even with an effort of will to imagine something good. It turned out - fine, and then we decide the situation according to plan.
The first is to determine what the essence of the problem is.
The second is to understand the reasons and what you should do to avoid such a problem in the future.
Third - imagine the worst result, do it calmly. It may not be as bad as you thought at first.
Fourth , try to understand which way out of the difficult situation will be best.
The fifth - think, is it possible in this situation a non-standard solution and what will have to be abandoned to achieve this goal.
Sixth - make up a real plan for getting out of the problem. It should clearly show what resources will be needed, how much time you spend and what should be done specifically to overcome the current situation.
Seventh - the most important thing, it is necessary to understand what benefit can be extracted from this problem. And this is the most important thing.
One of the components of success is your emotional state. If you are negative about the difficulties and mistakes that inevitably arise in any activity, then all your efforts will be in vain. Negative emotions are just a bad habit and you have to learn how to replace it with a habit, include positive emotions. How can this be achieved?- It is necessary to treat yourself with love. Remember this feeling and call it in a difficult situation.
- Life is Beautiful. Love your life.
- Do not be a whiner, they are always avoided by luck.
- Learn to relax and relax.
- You are constantly anxious. Define matters in importance, do not strive for ideality always and everywhere.
- Never compare yourself with others, as you think more successful. They also have problems, but they solve them.
- For each case, brought to the end, praise yourself.
- It should become your habit to enjoy problems as a life experience. Under such circumstances, soon your failures will turn into victories.
- We must always act, then the fear of the problem will pass, and control over the situation will not be lost. It is better to spend energy on action, not on your experiences.
- Your subconscious mind should be positive and set for success.
- You should never give up before difficulties.
I want to dwell a little more on how to cope with negative emotions during a difficult situation, when it would seem impossible to take the situation in hand. Try to shift attention from heavy thoughts to any activity. Well, if it will exhaust you physically. It is necessary to speak out, but the person must be friendly to you. You can relax by talking to your pet. Just stroke the cat.
A very good way to take matters into your own hands is to put all your heavy thoughts on paper and then burn it. You will immediately feel relief in the shower. Make yourself a gift. Buy something that you have long wanted or spend the day the way you want. You can just lie down and sleep. You can do something good for people close to you. And most importantly, in any situation you need to find something positive. In a word, take a deep breath and go to the exit from the problem and achieve your goal. Remember - everything is in your hands, believe in yourself and everything will turn out.
In life, it happens - someone gets into serious situations for a short time and out of them with a victory. And there are people who live in this condition for life, because they recognized the situation as complex and unchanging. Such people do not try to get out of the situation, but seek compromises. Compromise does not imply the fulfillment of your desires and does not allow you to rise to a new level of life. So try to cross out the concept of life - a difficult situation. Now you know how to take matters into your own hands and rectify the situation. Transform the situation into a positive, in fulfillment of your aspirations and desires. Thus, by changing attitudes toward life, you will achieve everything yourself.