Shout
Remember - cry, this is not a desire to inflict harm, it is, first of all, your helplessness. This is how children think about the kids who shout at them. Parents who constantly break down on them, they think insecure in themselves.
When raising children, shouting is forbidden. It is he who can cause a demonstrative nature in the child. When my mother breaks into a cry, the child starts to knock on his feet more actively, he gets used to crying and makes his mother feel even more strongly. Thus, the child gets used to hysterical reactions and starts using it himself.
Beat
Undoubtedly, many parents will say that they did not touch the child with their finger. And now remember those moments when you harmlessly spanked the baby bail, when he climbed, where not to. Or weak slaps on the pope, in general, anything that frightened the child and caused discomfort. He may not be hurt, but the fact that you beat him, scares the noses.
Remember - you can not beat children, regardless of the force of the blow. Amy continues to advance on the same rake, unable to cope with their own fears.
Interfere with personal life
This applies to older children. Children have new friends, hobbies, companies. Parents are very often striving to get into the life of their child and teach him mind-reason. They arrange all sorts of interrogations, finding out where and with whom he was. Children from this not vvostorege, especially when the secrets of their intimate life are the subject of general discussion. Many of them, themselves want to share their secrets and problems, but only if they feel full safety and the parents will not ask unnecessary questions.
You can not drink, smoke and mother in the presence of children
Here everything is simple. First, dad will drink a bottle of beer, then the mama will invite her friend to spend time. And now the child perceives the birthright prohibitions, as humiliation - it means that mom and dad can, but I can not? So, keep an eye out for what you are doing. Remember - the child copies all our movements and preferences. You do not want him to become interested in this in the future?
I think, it is not necessary to say that a child is first and foremost a great responsibility. After his appearance, life turns upside down. Any prohibition that you impose on a child encourages him to adequately treat undesirable things. After all, as you know, the forbidden fruit is sweet, as if it was not bitter to realize it.
You can not be afraid of his sexuality
All children grow by leaps and bounds. Already at the age of 15 many of them have sexual intercourse with seniors. Before that, in their conversations there are references to sex or other vulgarity.
Parents in such cases often behave incorrectly. Instead of clutching at the head and telling the child how this is a fear, overtaking fear on him, you should warn him about safety and ask to use contraceptives. The fear that you inspire in this age will affect his sexual life in a few years. It happens even worse, parents start asking the child where he walked and what he did, trying to behave the right way.
Demand to study on the spot
This is a very controversial situation. Some believe that the ambitiousness of parents is embedded in them since the Soviet times, where everyone was made obedient and obedient. Parents require the same from their stepchildren.
School successes of the child are often reflected in the lack of implementation of parents. Many people reproach themselves for missing opportunities, and think that even though a child can go on the right path. However, such pressure will lead to nothing good. Perhaps, when he grows up, he will wake up to everyone's desire and always propose. Believe me - this is not the best feature. So why torture the child and those who will love him?
Yes, and what can I say? Not everyone is given the same thing, but this does not mean that your child is worse. You do not worry about the fact that you did not become a molecular biologist?