So, let's figure out what leads to female perfectionism.
Almost every girl has for herself a certain standard of appearance, in the deviation from which she is ready to urgently go on a diet, visit a beautician or run to a fashion store to update an outdated wardrobe. Being still a teenager, the girl draws for herself the image of an ideal husband. Any mother of the family in the shower wants the family to consider her an impeccable mistress. Every mother wants to be proud of the success of her child. The modern business lady will not allow slips in the work and will not allow her subordinates to work through their sleeves. All this is so natural that at first glance, nothing bad is seen, which can lead to female perfectionism.However, if the installed bar is so high that a constant voltage is required to achieve it, serious problems can arise.
The media constantly show us images of beautiful girls with an ideal figure , velvety skin and lush hair. They are surrounded by fashionable things, prestigious cars and rich young people. For a girl who lives in a Khrushchevka with her mother, she is fighting an unequal fight with pimples and goes to the university on the metro, the only thing missing is the harmony of her figure and the length of her legs. She sits on unbelievable diets and counts each calorie - so begins anorexia nervosa ...
A beautiful and intelligent girl thinks that her chosen one should be the ideal man. But for some reason, she is already over thirty, and the prince in her entourage has not appeared ...
She is an ideal hostess. There is always order in her house, all things in her place, you can not find a speck of dust. In the evening dinner is prepared, but for some reason the family is not in a hurry to return to this house, similar either to the museum or to the barracks ...
Mother constantly inspires her son, that he should be the smartest, learn best and always keep up. And for a while it really is true, but the age of transition is coming, and the child is going to all the hard times. Parents do not understand what could have led their child into a bad company ...
Mom brings up her daughter as an ideal girl, obedient, clean, hardworking. She from childhood absorbs the desire to be perfect, and now the relay of female perfectionism is successfully passed on to the next generation ...
A girl who graduated from a university with a red diploma, begins her career. She always seeks to carry out the work assigned to her one hundred percent, but for some reason there is always a lack of time. She lingers late, takes work on the weekend, she has absolutely no free time - usually so become workaholics ...
A woman of retirement age for several years now holds the position of the head of the department at a large enterprise. Management appreciates it, but it lives in a state of constant stress - for some reason, the subordinates can not achieve independent work. You have to finish everything yourself, sometimes you even have to hide from the authorities mistakes. The house is a mess, food from semi-finished products, and my husband seems to have found another. When she retires, she will not be able to avoid depression ...
Such sad stories can be told countless, and all of them confirm that female perfectionism is far from harmless, and in some cases can lead to serious mental disorders, women's destiny unfolds and, worst of all, children.
Try to love yourself for what you are, feel self-confidence, give other people the right to make a mistake - and then perfectionism will not be terrible for you!