Psychologists advise several ways how to make your life easier, if you had to apologize. Learn to apologize for embarrassing situations, and this will help you not to stay in a fool, and also make a good impression on a person.
Did anything happen?
Many people find it rather difficult to force themselves to ask for forgiveness, even if the situation requires it unequivocally. Even feeling guilty, they are afraid to feel themselves either humiliated, or unforgiven continue to behave as if nothing had happened. Offended from this it feels even worse - the situation is aggravated. Apologize to a person if you feel guilty, this will ease the soul.
Well, and if you can not bring yourself to utter cherished words, approach, for example, at work to a colleague who yesterday undeservedly touched, and say:
"Let's go to the cafe. I really want to drink tea with you - I'm dying of thirst. Today you look amazing! "Hardly anyone after such a friendly greeting will continue to sulk ... After tea, the situation will be discharged. And you can quietly say, looking into her eyes: "Forgive me. I blurted out something wrong yesterday. "
The disadvantage of this method: the external frivolity of the behavior of the apologetic may not please the offended. And he decides: the guilty one is an insensitive person who can not understand his pain.
Write letters
Today, few people can complain about the lack of opportunities to contact one or another person. Can not you apologize when you meet, looking into your eyes? No strength to hold a heavy telephone conversation? Do not despair! There are sms messages and e-mail! Especially pleasant moment: you can think through every word, logically build the text of the message. You will feel relieved by pressing the "send" button. The ability to learn to apologize in an awkward situation not only eases the soul, but also helps to restore friendships for a long time.
Lack of this method: you will have to wait for a response from the addressee. If the reaction does not immediately follow, you will start to get lost in conjecture: why did not you answer? The message is not reached? Apologies are not accepted? The one to whom you feel guilty, thinks that you surrendered and apologize in writing, afraid to look into his eyes?
With an open visor
And why not get the hang of it and not come up and apologize if it's your fault? The main thing is to follow not only the words, but also the timbre of voice and intonation. Avoid pompous pompous phrases - they sound unnatural and raise doubts about the sincerity of the one who pronounces them. You must talk tete-a-tete, speak quietly and slowly. Let the words come from the heart. Saying them, look in the eyes of the one to whom you address them.
If the insult is very deep, do not expect to be immediately forgiven. Even if they say that they forgive. Support your apologies by actions. Especially if the insult caused had not only moral consequences. A person should understand that you are actually ashamed and you are ready for a lot to make amends.
A very cunning way is to pretend to be offended. Here there is a struggle of characters. The softest person will give in first. But this method is not the most successful. You can be so angry with each other for years, and all these years, remember: "And what did not we share then?"