Looking in the mirror, you think that for full happiness you need legs more authentic, the car is more abrupt, the profession is more attractive. And you start the race for happiness. Wannabe - not to be, but to seem. Why do we seek the ideal that changes us?
What is Wannabe? This English concept with a negative connotation signifies a situation where, without fitting, you cling to a model of behavior that is not your own. Over time, as part of Wannabe, it becomes tight, and the shell can not be reset. You do not grow up, you just "want to be." You want to be like a Miss Universe, but as a result you become like Barbie. After all, beautiful, you think, everyone loves.
Actually
Yes, you need to take care of yourself, it gives you confidence and keeps your health. But do not put on your beauty all your hopes and desires. Guys love us not only for appearance. To make a career, some beautiful eyes are also not enough, and the love of others can be won by kindness, benevolence and honesty.
Why beauty?
Because some girls are sure that, apart from it, it will have no advantages. But without believing in yourself, you do not have to count on modeled externality: all your ideality is distorted by complexes and inadequate behavior.
You think
Glory will correct everything that at the moment does not suit you in your life. It seems to you that if you only light a couple of times on the screen, the universal love and adoration will fall on you. Still you are assured, that the stars are inaccessible celestials, whose whole life passes in continuous light parties, baths with milk.
Actually
Glory to the glory of discord. Those who received it for specific merits (talent, social activities, contribution to art and culture), really enjoy the "side effect" of universal admiration and worship. But here's the paradox: they do not attach much importance to this, they continue to play the game. But many who are hungry for fame are cruel afterwards for not paying. Come to any forum where the stars of stage and stage are discussed. It's a feeling that they discuss not idols of the public, but perjurers.
Why the Slavs?
Because you really want to mean something in the eyes of others. When you depend on someone else's opinion, do not feel respect, then you start dreaming about the easiest way, as it seems to you, about cinema and television. But this way often requires working up to the seventh sweat, self-denial and decisiveness. And the complexes in the public grow in geometric progression.
Wannabe Fashionable
You clearly know that in any matter, from profession to carrot, you need to be in a trend. You became a vegetarian, although the head is spinning from a lack of protein, was carried away by politics (Ksyusha Sobchak does all the time) and you are putting in the store serious money for a trendy bag, knowing that in the next season it will not be in a trend. And every time, opening a glance, criticize fashion-editors for backwardness.
That fashion itself makes a choice for you, and you get a chance to live peacefully. Magazines, TV shows, fashion experts have already decided for you what to wear and how to look. You also think that it is not fashionable to be ashamed that only on the fact that the actual thing on you is worn or not depends on your personal happiness - the guys prefer and meet and see off on the clothes.
Actually
Fashion is a special kind of art that reflects our history, after the First World War, hats that looked like military boots appeared in fashion, but right after the Second World War women began to look as much as possible, as if trying to forget about the tragedy that had passed. Each of us creates its own fashion in parallel. You can be in a trend, you can act on your own, but something of your own, unique in the image you'll make sure. Relate to the fashion with a certain amount of irony.
You dream of managing your own business or even a promising department. And in order for a "maserati" to shine in a personal parking lot, and you would order a foie gras with restaurants, without looking at the price. For this you do not just dream, but you work hard for forty-eight hours at work, in parallel you study on an uninteresting economical, you're running from fatigue, but you promise that for forty years these investments will yield solid dividends.
Actually
Success and self-realization are two completely different concepts. You can become a big economic boss, and secretly dream about the work of a florist. There is another danger in the pursuit of the goals set to miss their own life. The unprecedented struggle for success is the postponement of life for tomorrow. Another thing, if you yourself get pleasure from it, and do not go over your heads, trying to make a career.
Why success?
In primary school, you were shots with a briefcase, in the upper grades a boycott was declared. As a result, a logical thought arose: "I will grow up, I will learn, I will become a super-business lady, I will come to a meeting of graduates, here you all go." Another problem arises: people, fixated on power, money and career growth, are very much afraid to return to childhood and again become victims. The head of the team will not be shaken by a portfolio, the boss thinks everything is such a simple message. Do not forget that success must be adequate, and, most importantly, choose the matter to your liking.
Wannabe sexy
The world is ruled by coveted people, and you already noticed it. Sex is not an easy way to increase self-esteem, but also the ability to manipulate the people around. Guys go insane, the girls are furious with envy, and the instructor puts four instead of a triple, according to the breadth of your horizons, the length of your mini-skirt.
You think
That sex and power go hand in hand. Sexy young ladies are bothering all the guys without exception, they are admired. Yes, sexuality is important, of course. But there is no one on all sexuality. Someone like model girls, someone is crazy with beauties like Monica Bellucci, some fall only on girls with short hair - lots of options. And yet, the desire to please is a natural desire, but why do you want to like everything absolutely? Why do you need so many fans? This problem hints at the fact that you feel kind of unloved and yourself first of all nenravishysya.
Why sexuality?
Because in the animal world, sexuality affects status in the pack. We're not far from the animals. And let the tails fall off in the process of evolution, but the message "attractive, well adapts, will give a healthy intelligent offspring" remained. So sexuality allows you to win and dominate.
But, to the best of my heart, is it really so necessary to you? In adults, complete freedom and independence. No one requires a report of bad behavior and good behavior, no one climbs into the room without an invitation, amorozhenoe can be eaten from morning till night and no one will say that the throat hurts. In general, no one teaches life.
You think
That adults can do everything: live freely and make their own decisions.
Actually
Age is measured by life experience, and not by living separately from parents. And do not forget that among adults there are many such who remain not adapted to life, like a child. And adulthood does not always mean anger.