A person who is suspicious looks like a violent lunatic. He can for years fight his head against the soft walls of his prison and does not even try to look around, because the exit is near. It is enough to open the unlocked door. We'll figure it out how you can deal with the suspiciousness that prevents living.
Camera number 1
" What people will say." Everyone looks at you only and laughs out loud. They laugh at you, over whom else. It was not necessary to wear this jacket - now everyone has considered what you are not stylish. But the girl in the subway mockingly at you squinted. She knows for sure that you do not have a boyfriend.
Trap : The problem "What will people say?" Arises with a puberty. Some carry it like chickenpox, you need to be sick at an unintentional age, but many suffer for years. Parents often told us: "Behave yourself! Marivanna said yesterday that you are ill-bred! "In parallel, we heard other things:" We must be a person, we must be independent, we must be ... "Over time, these pedagogical pitchfork can lead you to the point that you will be torn between life "And" must ". Plus, shyness, when one unfortunate pimple is perceived as a universal tragedy.
Camera number 2
"I can not do it . " Any beginning causes a nervous attack. You get down to business, confident that you will not succeed. It is clear that expectations do not deceive you. But just do not worry about life. Of course, everyone is to blame for failure: parents did not support, teachers blocked up, friends did not understand, the guy did not want luck.
Trap : Admit it honestly, so it's much easier to live.Sest and helpless to fold paws, surrendering in advance - this is the easiest way to shift responsibility to others for their actions. You program yourself to fail, because you are waiting for something awful, which you can not cope with, and then you can say with a clear conscience: "I'm a failure" and get a guaranteed sympathy and pity.
Output : Enough of the truth. You did not understand the paragraph on geometry, not because you "have absolutely no abstract thinking", but because you did not go into the textbook unnecessarily. If you try, but still set yourself up for failure, ask yourself: why is this happening? Write out in the notebook your achievements and skills, courses and electives that you attended, reread the list and a little bit of pride. Yes, you do not manage the airplane, but graduated from pedagogical courses and now you have the advantage of finding a job as a nanny to earn extra money on vacation.
Camera number 3
"This terrible, terrible world . " To start to be afraid of all the naves, it's enough to look through a couple of news releases. And it raced: it's dangerous to walk through the road - there cars, it's dangerous to drive - pedestrians jumping under the wheels, the planes are falling, the trains go off the rails. In the bushes sit maniacs, vtramvae necessarily robbed, and in December, all in general will be covered with a copper basin. Even more, doctors promise an epidemic of plague, and from the Laptev Sea there is a seizure of flu. And now, as luck would have it, you sneeze in the morning. How terrible to live!
Trap : The fact is that you do not trust yourself. You do not believe in your physical abilities, in knowledge, or in your life experience. Yes, you can not stop the tsunami, but take care of your safety in your strength.
Output : It is better to consult with a psychologist in order to bring the matter to a neurosis. Sign up for Wushu: master the elements of self-defense, calm your nerves and improve the figure. And still do not have to turn on the TV in the morning and a cup of tea to find out what else nasty happened in the world. In the extreme case, take a short cartoon. Take the bread left from breakfast, and feed the sparrow's yard. By the way, bird chirping is a wonderful antidepressant. And in general, your safety is your responsibility. Therefore, crossing the road, look again, leaving the transport, look under your feet and do not go at night on the dark alleys.
Camera number 4
"He does not like me . " You fell in love and do not know how he treats you. MCH can dream, as if to go to the cinema with you, but you look under the microscope and conclude: "I do not need him." And here you meet, who is absolutely not interesting to you, trying to put off your suspiciousness. "Yes, I do not see me with my dream, but I like other people!" It's strange that the guys change with the speed of sound, but true love goes somewhere.
Trap : Your fear is your enemy. Maybe in the past you have been denied feelings, and now you are sure that with a person in whom you fell in love, you will not get anything done. But with the unloved all venerously obtained. They usually adore you, than quickly start to irritate. As a result, you are again disappointed in love, and your beautiful prince does not know what African passions with his participation boil from him in two steps.
Output : At least check how he treats you, maybe he does not even know your name. Talk to him, it suddenly turns out that you go to one climbing wall? Every day tell yourself how wonderful, charming, funny and intelligent. And it is this guy who will be very glad to eat with you ice cream or sit next to him in the library.