Complexes
As you know, every person makes a certain choice, experiences certain emotions, based on his experience and views. But an important role is played by the psychological state and mental equilibrium. There are men who are very complex. They are ready to love, but they are not ready to endure difficulties and receive refusals. In such men, hatred flares up in cases of unrequited love. They can love a woman for a very long time, but after the realization of the inappreciation of their dreams comes, love turns into hatred. In fact, such a person hates a niece, but himself. But he can not admit it. He begins to win over the woman in his experiences and personal difficulties, cultivates in a greyness to her, in order to somehow justify his failures. Such people are very weak in spirit. They never try to change something. It is easier for them to hate someone than to find in themselves the minuses and try to transform them into positive things. With such people, strange changes occur afterwards, as they understand that they can not achieve love. Delicate, lovely, ready-for-all, they suddenly turn into cruel misogynists who are ready to tell the corner in time that their former beloved fallen woman, the fool, does not deserve attention from others. In particularly difficult cases, it is these men who try to hurt women and take revenge on them. It is always necessary to stay away from such people.
The fact that takoyevspyshki hate are the consequence of a lack of love in childhood, the humiliation of criminals and so on. For such a person, all who do not like him are enemies. While the guy he is in love with a woman and achieves it, at heart he believes that she is experiencing these feelings, just wants to see some confirmation of his love. But if this does not happen, the man is disappointed and the woman becomes an enemy for the other. In addition, these men carry on to others all their losses and disappointments. If he did not achieve a woman, then it is not because of his weakness and lack of character, hopelessness, bad habits and lack of ability to behave as befits a man. Of course not! He did not achieve his lady only because she is a juvenile (an elderly) idiot with chicken brains (too smart), inflated demands and so on and so forth. So, if you suddenly hate your former admirer, who completely suits this description, instead of thinking and getting upset, just try to keep from it as far as possible and in no case do not pay attention to rumors that he can dismiss. Remember that when you start reacting, you amuse his mutilated self-esteem or confirm once again the fact that he is an ideal man, and you are an inadequate creature who justifies himself, and therefore admits his guilt.
Dispelling of the ideas
Of course, hatred can come not only from behind-complexes. Men can hate those women who for some reason were nesmogli or did not want to conform to their ideals. In the life of every man there is a man or woman of his dreams. Simply with time, we understand that the ideal people do not exist and we try to love those who are most suitable to our requirements, but at the same time remains an individual. Unfortunately, some people do not want to be aware of this. Most likely, your former lover once created in his head an ideal. Then he met you and thought that you are the very woman-dream. All this time he assured himself and you of his love. But unfortunately, he continued to love his ideal and tried with all his might not to notice that you are not. And then, perhaps, there was a situation, thanks to which the man still had to see the real situation, which he was not delighted with. It was after you destroyed his ideals, you can say, took away the dream, the man hated you. In this situation, his psychology is perfectly understandable. Remember yourself how angry you were at people who were ruining your plans or were preventing you from reaching your goal. In this situation, you have destroyed your ideal image of the eyes and the man does not want to admit the fact that you have always been a different person. No, he will convince himself that a woman just lied to him all this time, pretending to be perfect.
The second option is that he will convince himself that you have changed, because he was too kind, sweet and good, and you did not notice and turned into a bitch. In this case, it is worth experiencing. Of course, it's painful and hurtful when you are accused of for some reason you could not invest in the framework of an ideal woman, which in this world simply does not exist. But nevertheless, it is better to be glad that the man finally popped and ceased to deceive not only himself, but you. It is very difficult to live, knowing that looking at you a man loves someone completely unreal. And when you try to indignify that he thinks up a completely different woman for himself, behave quite unsuited to the image he created, the man begins to invent absolutely absurd justifications for your actions, but still does not want to believe in reality.
And if you offended him
And yet the hatred of a man can cause not only his psychological problems. The woman can really become the reason. Therefore, if your guy radically changed attitude towards you, still think about your actions. And if you feel that you have done wrong, you do not need to seek an excuse. Perhaps you acted with a little dishonesty, betrayed or changed. Or, for example, they fell out of love, but continued to see each other, thinking about something else, and even changing it with another. In this case, vego behavior is not surprising. You did not just hurt him, you insulted and humiliated his manhood, and this is the main reason for male hatred. And if the situation has developed this way, then the best way out will be to ask for forgiveness and forever disappear from his life.