1 PROBLEM: he does not want to wear a condom. SOLUTION: There can be only one thing: no condom - no sex. Without negotiations and options. As soon as your boyfriend understands that your opinion on this issue is firm, unambiguous and can not be discussed, he will put on a condom. Just say: "I only do safe sex." And he either understands you, or turns out to be an infantile fool ... And you just do not need that kind of thing.
2 PROBLEM: he asks you to somehow change your appearance. SOLUTION: If he does not ask for something global (repaint hair, cardinally lose weight, make artificial breasts), then fulfill his request. It's not difficult for you, but it's nice for him. By the way, if you are going to meet such requests of a partner, then you have the full moral right to ask for something in return: and if he does not want to rock for you, like Taylor Lautner, then you do not need to sculpt yourselves everywhere with rhinestones.
3 PROBLEM: he is silent during sex. And you would like gentle words. SOLUTION: First, to teach best by example. So do not hold back either. Stagnate, shout, whisper to him all sorts of ecstatic nonsense about how beautiful he is and how much you like what is happening now. Over time, he will also be able to relax and break his bedchamber of silence.
4 PROBLEM: he is focused on your chest, forgetting about everything else. SOLUTION: If you tell him something, when he is so keen on the process, then he may not take it. Kiss him and say something like: "I want it everywhere." Now show where exactly and how you want.
5 PROBLEM: he sets records on you. Literally. SOLUTION: If your sex turns into competition - how long it can do it, how many times in a row, how many times in a row can you, and standing, and on your head - then try to understand it. He, like you, is now studying his body. Surely he also carefully studies any new device that fell into his hands. Feeling a simulator for beginners is awkward, but believe me: soon the quantity will grow into quality.
6 PROBLEM: you want something concrete, and he does not understand the hints. Even very frank hints. SOLUTION: The easiest way would be to say directly. But when it comes to the subtleties that require a detailed description ... Here, literally everything is lost. But there is a way out. What can not be said, you can always write! In ICQ, in SMS ... Bring him to an erotic conversation and describe in detail what you want. He will not see how you blush, pale and stutter, but remember what you want.
7 PROBLEM: he wants oral sex, and you are not ready for this at all. DECISION: Say that in order for this experience to be pleasant for both of you, you need to come to this too. And constant reminders about this matter will not accelerate.
8 PROBLEM: He's too gentle. Too! SOLUTION: Oddly, it's much more difficult to solve the problem with a too tender boy than with a very tough boy. When it hurts, you can always say "Oh!" And "Ay!". It is much more difficult to explain to the boy that he is so gentle ... so much that you do not feel anything, that you would like all of the same, but three times more intense. Most likely, he perceives you as a fairy, consisting of ether and marshmallow and just afraid to hurt you, so you should act cautiously. As soon as he guessed to move in the right direction, portray a stormy enthusiasm, encourage him with all available means, so that he would understand how right. And if he gets too carried away, you can always say: "Ay!"
9 PROBLEM: he is very clamped during sex and does nothing. SOLUTION: To understand why he does not. If he is not a principal opponent of any sex other than quiet and sad, then most often the reason is that he is afraid to disappoint you with an immodest proposal or a sharp movement. Therefore, here several times you will have to take the initiative. But be prepared for the fact that soon it will disperse and you will only have to dream about the initiative in sex!
10 PROBLEM: he seldom shaves himself and very scratches you with kisses ... DECISION: Let him say that he has a terrible irritation on his skin, but in reality it is not entirely true. He's just lazy. Therefore - shave him! Undress the face, apply foam and shave gently and gently. Hardly he refuses.
11 THE PROBLEM: he does not go to the shower before sex, and it hurts you. SOLUTION: Make a joint hike in the shower part of sex. Soon he will have a right habit: first a shower, then sex.
12 PROBLEM: he wants to have sex with you at a party with friends. And you do not like to do it in close toilets or on the bed of someone's mother. SOLUTION: Actually, sex is such a thing, where each of the partners has the right of veto. The phrase: "I do not want this, because I will be uncomfortable, let's get better at home?" - is usually perfectly perceived by any normal boy. And the abnormal ... Well, you yourself know.
13 PROBLEM: He wants to share intimate details with his friends. SOLUTION: Ask if he will like it if you discuss all of his visible and invisible virtues with his girlfriends? In addition, clarify whether he will be pleased if all his friends will participate in your intimate life.
14 THE PROBLEM: he wants sex more often than you.
SOLUTION: Seek compromises. "If he loves me, he will suffer" - this is the right to life, but not a very honest decision. It's one thing when you do not feel like it on a particular day. Other - when you do not want to constantly. It is very nice to be a "snow queen", who can execute and pardon in one word. But it's not very pleasant when you are rejected - day after day, month after month. Such a relationship is unlikely to lead to anything good. Therefore - talk. Discuss, look for options, come up ... And remember that the appetite comes with eating.