Look - do not play!
The ubiquitous aunts, aunts, friends, even pediatricians, assured you that they carry a child in their arms-a crime. And if you do not urgently begin to accustom your own self-dependence, wearing on your hands, then he will soon sit on your neck. Like, the child will roll up hysterics about and without, manipulate you and in general - will be a real capricious monster.
What is the vindication? In fact, there is no such statistics regarding the relationship between wearing a baby on his hands and his subsequent behavior. The people of older generation are more likely to voice the generally accepted popular stereotype, and, most often, according to the principle: "Pasternak? No, I have not. But I condemn. " Surely they did not carry their children on their hands all the time, but they still say it's bad. Pediatricians are well versed in nipples, colic and vaccinations, but they are certainly aware of the serious psychological needs of your baby precisely for yourself.
The results of recent studies show that if a child in infancy gets enough tactile contact with his mother, then it will grow much more calm, adequate and manageable. It's another matter that "hand" children are really more attached to their parents than their "peeled off" peers. For mothers, forced to give the baby to the nursery and go to work, this can become a serious problem. On the other hand, such childlike attachment will guarantee your warm, trusting relationship with your growing child in the future.
So, if different "well-wishers" persuade you to quickly wean the child out of your hands, and you disagree internally, then do not listen to anyone. Declare everyone your own decision, make it clear that only you have the right to decide what is best for your baby. Try to pay less attention to lengthy advice, more often refer to your parental intuition and to the recommendations of authoritative specialists.
Just netsy!
It is not uncommon for the situation when the mother, in principle, for the satisfaction of all the needs of the baby, but it is physically difficult, which is simply not corny. It is this that pushes her into thinking that the child is being weaned from the hands. In this case, we will have to reconsider the organization of domestic life and redistribute responsibilities in the family. Involve the koukhod for the baby relatives, friends, friends. Do not hesitate to do this, many will happily sit with your masik for a couple of hours a week. If there are financial opportunities, hire a good nanny.
Also, to facilitate the life of the mother will help a variety of adaptations that can temporarily distract the attention of the baby. These are various musical toys, mobile phones, developing mats and special vibrating boxes. There are dazhenomodnye cribs designed to calm children, suffering colic. If you take all this into service, then you will be much easier. The main thing is that the kid should be distracted, and not feel abandoned and deprived.
No time for housekeeping
Usually this is the case with mothers with several children who do not have much help with housework. True, here too, you need to set all the priorities. The acute shortage of time, most likely, is subjective: it is not enough what modern woman has a huge farm that requires constant inspection. For the same to make a simple dinner, shove the laundry in the washing machine and clean up a couple of times a week in the apartment, you need a lot of time.
Advanced moms will be useful to learn the methods of management, to involve relatives in the work of the house, to learn how to use a sling or a "kangaroo". Understand, your baby is much more important than any household. And it will not be in your hands all your life. Suffer - soon it will be longer.
Early Mom's Exit to Work
It happens that the family has financial problems. Mom is forced to start work early, giving the baby to the nursery, since neither free relatives, nor money for a nanny is not. Actually, this is the only situation in which the mother is partially justified from the baby.
True, it's not at all a fact that a baby needs to be denied tactile contact for this. It is just necessary from the first months to teach the baby to the society of different people. Leave it often with friends, relatives, go to visit. But those rare hours spent with the baby, try to fill the maximum with warmth and love.
Submission of summaries
Actually, it turns out that there are only two ways to wean the baby from the hands. The first way is to teach him to switch his attention to other objects: interesting toys, music, even on TV. For many parents, this approach is very effective, although for some it does not work at all.
The second way is just not to pay attention to the attention. Shouts - well, let. Will get used to the time. This, however, is often a reverse effect: a baby whose need for communication with his mother is not satisfied, becomes nervous, capricious, and gives parents big problems at an older age. So it is up to you to wean by force, cunning, or not to wean it altogether. Listen to your mother's heart - it certainly will not.